Have I been scammed by a Ukrainian woman?
About 8 weeks ago, I started to date online with a Ukrainian single mother who happens to be 30 years of age with a 3 year old daughter. I had met her on a free dating website after she had viewed my profile a couple of times and I had emailed her to thank her for her interest in the profile.
She had explained very early on that she had been on the wrong end of a very messy divorce. Now she lives in a hostel with her daughter. I did not ask her any questions with regards to the circumstances as I believe this would be a painful memory H for her.
So far I have been quite happy about how our relationship has gone , but so far she has been reluctant to give me the address if the hostel , when I have offered to send her, or her daughter any presents ,saying that this would not be possible in Bobrynets. I have sent her money even though she technically never asked for any money but sounded like she needed urgent help. The amounts have not been a great amount and she had always thanked me “for my tenderness and care”.
However she does claim that she cannot afford a mobile phone and therefore has no number. She did call me once briefly from a pay phone and said that she hopes to be in the UK with her daughter one day.
When I offered to visit, she told me that there are no hotels in Bobrynets and that her hostel would not be appropriate. She had given me quotes on prices for preparing an international passport and cost for her visa and tickets but not sure demand and says she would be happy for me to sponsor her.
I have checked her name for scams and apparently she sent the same introductory 2 letters to another man in smith country. Now this might have been because she had been just shopping around to find a suitable partner before settling for me, or she might be doing this on a regular basis.
My question is, do I continue with this relationship, as she had suggested that the price quote which is for her passport was a $150 cheaper than what she quoted me.
I am afraid that you became a victim of Ukrainian dating scam. There are three simple reasons why I guess so.
Reason #1: […]she has been reluctant to give me the address if the hostel, when I have offered to send her, or her daughter any presents, saying that this would not be possible in Bobrynets […] – in my opinion, her statement about that sending any presents to Bobrynetz is not possible is not true because Bobrynets is not the end of the world. It is a small town in Kirovohrad Oblast (province) of Ukraine with the population of 12,300. You find post services there and that means it is really possible to get presents from abroad.
Reason #2: […] however she does claim that she cannot afford a mobile phone and therefore has no number […] – (almost) everybody in Ukraine has a mobile phone and uses computer (skype, icq, msn messenger). It is possible to communicate through telephone or Internet. Even my aunt who earns only $200 per month in Kiev has a mobile phone.
Reason #3: […] When I offered to visit, she told me that there are no hotels in Bobrynets and that her hostel would not be appropriate […] – This statement is not true, as well. Firstly, I have found information about Bobrynetz on the Internet, namely:
Bobrynets is a town in the Kirovograd region (Ukraine). The town was founded in the XVII century. Located 54 miles south of Kirovograd, on the river Bobrinka. Highway runs through the city of Kirovohrad – Nikolaev. There is a bus station. There is a transit bus communication with the cities of Nikolaev, Kherson, Krivoy Rog, Kirovograd, Kiev, Kremenchug, and others. Bobrinetz population is 12.5 thousand people. In Bobrinetz there are 5 schools, 2 kindergartens. There is a hotel, a public health center, a central district hospital, and four pharmacies.
(source: http://www.stejka.com/rus/kirovogradskaja/bobrinec/ in Russian)
Secondly, Bobrynetz is only 54 km from Kirovohrad. Kirovohrad is a big city and there are a lot of hotels where you can stay during your trip.
My advice is that you stop immediately the contact with this woman.
And do not send any money to the woman you never see before!!!
Learn more how to protect yourself from Ukrainian dating scam here:
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