Five potential red flags in Ukrainian online dating
The scenario is every Western man’s worst nightmare: “I was contacted by an amazing woman from Ukraine. She was beautiful and funny, a full 23 years younger than me. I just knew she was the one! It was love at first sight”. But the reality is something different…. 🙁
Unfortunately, it may be sometimes too good to be true. After investing (a lot of) time and money in what you think is your one true love, “your perfect Ukrainian lady Natalia” stops contacting you. From my personal experience, I can say that the men have since gone on to find love online.
You can avoid making the same mistakes by recognizing these five red flags.
Red Flag #1: too big age difference
The first red flag is a very young woman from Ukraine or Russia contacting an older man from a Western country. As for me, it is very strange if a 20 year old beauty from Ukraine contacts first a man who is much older than her (20-25-30 year age difference is extreme big and may be the reason for problems and misunderstanding in a Western-Ukrainian relationship).
But I have to mention that not every young Ukrainian woman who contacts an older man is a scammer. On the other hand, she should be viewed with caution. Some readers told me that several beautiful Ukrainian ladies wrote to them first that they really wanted to talk to them as soon as possible.
Well, we should realize this is the 21st century and all. Women can initiate a relationship without being a scammer; however you must think about the age difference in depth and decide if you are ready for that or not. Be careful.
Red Flag #2: weak anti-scam system on your Ukrainian dating site
Many newbies make this silly and costly mistake, namely: they begin to use the Ukrainian dating site without having made a detailed online research on its services. The fact is that many International online dating services have a serious problem with scamming. This is a huge red flag.
Some International online dating sites make it easier for scammers to take root and make them more difficult to find. Dating sites that allow multiple accounts from the same IP address make it easier for a scammer to set up many accounts.
Red Flag #3: falling in love – too fast, too furious
The next sign I should have seen is “falling in love” by the third letter. I am sure you know this story: two people from two different countries write back – forth for a few days before the man gets a message that the Ukrainian lady is falling hard for him, that she is in love and she wants to move to his home country to spend her life with him. Happy end of this online dating story? I do not think so! You do?
We all are adult people and may not believe such messages that the woman/man falls in love after a short online mail communication without meeting in person and at least hearing the voice of the woman or man.
Red Flag #4: you are my Mr. Right
In the same spirit, another red flag is if the Ukrainian man just knows that you are the man for her. You know that patience is one of the most important keys to a successful & happy Western-Ukrainian relationship.
Thus when you try to slow things down and see that the woman tells you she has this feeling that you are destined to be together, you must view this woman with a big caution. You may not believe if the woman from Ukraine tells you she just knows that you are going to grow old together.
Red Flag #4: exaggerated literary picture of your future together
Painting an attractive picture of where the future will lead is another common red flag. It is not usual if the Ukrainian woman for marriage say you things like “we can grow old on the porch together” and “we’ll travel the world. I will show you all the sites” in her third message.
Red Flag #5: nude or revealing photos
Furthermore, throwing in the attractive pictures of the Ukrainian woman with every message is not a normal behavior in the Ukrainian dating field. Of particular concern are nude or very revealing photos. Genuine women with serious intentions do not do something like this.
I hope if you know these things, you will never send a Ukrainian dating scammer several thousand dollars or invest your costly time, your heart and your emotions in a relationship that doesn’t really exist.
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)