Ukrainian-Western dating: 8 reasons for divorce and marriage breakdowns (part 2)
In the first part of this article I described the first four reasons for divorce in Ukrainian-Western marriages.
Today, we continue to find out the remaining reasons why the international marriages break down.
Here are the reasons #4-8 for divorce and marriage breakdowns:
4. Communication hunger
Many Russian and Ukrainian ladies are used to communicate with a wide circle of friends, neighbors, colleagues, taxi drivers, hairdressers and others. Thus, it is very important to support your wife to find new friends in a new country.
Otherwise, she will feel rejected. The main reason for divorce and unfaithfulness in Western-Ukrainian marriages is the lack of interest and understanding that is a direct result of the poor communication.
We said already that communication is a key to a happy marriage. You are wrong if you think that such basic forms of communication like “yes, thank you,” “do you love me”, or “yes, I love you …” are enough to develop your relationship with a Ukrainian woman.
5. Cultural differences in behavior
Cultural differences in behavior (different attitudes, values, manners and habits) can be quite traumatic, especially for someone who has moved to an unfamiliar environment. These differences based on diverse cultural concepts such as “individualism ↔ collectivism”, “rationality ↔ emotions”, and “success ↔ suffering” may lead to the confrontations between a Western husband and his woman from Ukraine.
From my personal experience, I can confirm that adaptation in a new country takes about 7 years; therefore, a period of the first 3-7 years is critical for any cross-cultural marriage.
Russian and Ukrainian women need to have a close friend because it’s in our blood. It is really important to find at least one friend with similar problems and experiences in a new country.
It is very problematic for many Ukrainian women moving to a new country to leave her old friends in Ukraine. Unfortunately, loss of contact with them is unavoidable for Ukrainian women.
I have experienced in Germany that many foreign husbands forbid their wives to maintain friendly relations with other Ukrainian and Russian women living there. Moreover, I have to mention that Western women do not really want to be friends with Ukrainian and Russian women.
Loneliness is an only friend of many women from Russia and Ukraine in a Western world. Therefore, it is important to support your wife to find new contacts in your country.
7. Ukrainian women’s relationship with their family
In some cases, the proximity of the mother can be the best solution for the quick integration of the wife into a new country. But I have to say that most of the Ukrainian and Russian mothers are too unhappy about their reality that their daughters move to a Western country.
There are many cases when the Russian and Ukrainian wives have brought their husbands to the “white heat” because of endless communication by phone and the mothers’ tips and tricks how to develop the daughter’s marriage with a Western partner
8. Illusions of Ukrainian brides living at the Western partner’s expenses
There are two most common types of Ukrainian women who never make their Western husbands happy and thus are at risk of getting a divorce from their husbands:
Type #1: Cinderella Forever
These women ask themselves why they should learn a language and integrate into a new life. It is easier for them to clean and cook because finally everything is stable in their life. Many men consider such women boring and lose interest over time.
Type #2: A Born Princess
These Ukrainian women believe that they are the most beautiful, young, gorgeous and sexy. They always only require, but do not want to do anything for their marriage. It is understandable that the men lose their patience over time and apply for a divorce.
In the next article, I will give you seven simple rules for a successful Western-Ukrainian marriage!
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)