General enquiry regarding dating Ukrainian ladies
Hi have recently been in Skype communication with an lady in Dnepropetrovsk. We found each other on a dating site. For the past few weeks, things have been going well, though i am a bit suspect on certain things, and would like some clarity. E.g., she say that to sms is expensive from Ukraine to Australia, but i have read it is only 1 hryvna = 15 australian cents.
She also asked me to start paying for English lessons; the cost was 100 euro/ month. She has degree as lawyer, but tells me there is little work, and the wage is not good. Now in the last week, has told me she wants to get clothes for her son, and needs money. She is divorced, and tells that father has no contact with child, and no financial support. He father works in Sweden as builder, and she and sister will be going there for work during the summer.
But strange is that she wants to meet me ASAP, to propose to her in Sweden, has told me she loves me, and wants to marry me in Australia. She speaks that I should also fly sister over for wedding to be bride’s maid.
I rarely receive emails from her, and I ask lots of questions, but she avoids them.
Unfortunately, I have a strong suspicion that your woman is a scammer. Russian and Ukrainian dating scams take in tens of millions of dollars each year and most of the victims are men. These scammers are ruthless people who are ripping people off by selling elaborate fantasy stories to unsuspecting men. They know what they are doing and how to get the naive victim to fall for the bait. When the scam is over, the unfortunate victim is left still lonely but with less money. There are a few signs of scam written in your message.
she say that to sms is expensive from Ukraine to Australia, but i have read it is only 1 hryvna = 15 australian cents
Believe me if the woman is interested in you, she will be wishing to send you sms. 1 hryvna is not much money and usually Ukrainian like to send sms to men they want to date.
She also asked me to start paying for English lessons, the cost was 100 euro/ month. She has degree as lawyer, but tells me there is little work, and the wage is not good. Now in the last week, has told me she wants to get clothes for her son, and needs money.
In my opinion, her words may be a sign or red flag for online scam. Why do I guess so? Because a Ukrainian/Russian scammer convinces you she needs money for a better life, to care for her family or to get out of a bad situation.
They may ask for money for any of the following reasons:
- Visa (More than likely through a fake travel agency)
- Tickets (Again, more than likely through a fake travel agency)
- Other travel documents such as passports or medical papers
- Health problems or a death in the family
- Cell phones
- Money to repay outstanding loans that will prevent them from leaving the country
- Money lost due to robbery or theft
You should know that a Ukrainian woman is a proud woman, with a lineage of hard work ethics behind her. She would never consider just arbitrarily asking for money to be paid to her without a good reason. Anyone who has spent anytime with a beautiful Ukrainian woman would know that her independence would clearly get in the way of a handout.
But strange is that she wants to meet me asap , to propose to her in Sweden, has told me she loves me, and wants to marry me in Australia.
Be cautious when your woman from Ukraine you have never met in person says “I love you”, “I really like you” or “We were destined for each other”. Typically this person is either desperate for love or a con. Just remember, love takes time and does not typically happen like the fairy tales “Love at first Sight”. We all are adult people and may not believe such messages that the woman/man falls in love after a short online mail communication without meeting in person and at least hearing the voice of the woman or man.
Usually, professional pro-daters and scammers are persistent on wanting to meet you right away. Generally within the first or second email or correspondence they initiate a first date and do not give up until you comply. Again, the Ukrainian pro-dater/scammer is looking for quick cash. Please take your time.
i rarely receive emails from her, and i ask lots of questions, but she avoids them.
I would say it is a usual scam indication. But if the letters are very personal and have all your questions answered in detail, it is a good sign that the woman is real and has serious intentions. There is a big possibility of a “copy and paste” scammer and she has no time and interest to answer your questions.
In my opinion, this scammer will cost you time, money, and even heart ache in the long run. My advice is do not send money to her and run away – it may be the best solution. So do not waste your time and money and look only for normal women in Ukraine! Believe me you will find them!
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)