6 Ukrainian women questions to take your dating experience to a higher level
This post is dedicated to asking and answering questions about Ukrainian dating and marriage relationships. You will find 6 interesting, helpful and amusing questions that will take your Ukrainian women experience to a higher level. Enjoy! 🙂
Question #1: You speak of the first date, and falling in love. But what about passion? What about sex? Is it ok to kiss on the first date?
I cannot tell you that women of Ukraine are ready to show you passion and make love on the first date. I think that only a few Ukraine ladies would agree to have sex on the first date. As you know, Ukrainian / Russian culture differs from Western culture. Thus, the Ukrainian and Russian woman’s attitude towards sex, hugs and kisses differs from the Western woman’s attitude.
You should know that our culture is rather conservative (the women are shy and do not kiss at the first date usually). Many readers write me that Ukrainian and Russian ladies are very shy, cannot or do not want to hug or kiss Western men, and it is really difficult sometimes to find out whether the woman is into you or not.
That makes the cross-cultural communication more complicated, in my opinion. Many women in Ukraine are waging a silent war for their own sexuality. In Literature, they are taught that they are to not even engage in a kiss without love being a priority. This makes the woman unable to explore her own sexual thoughts and attitudes to form a healthy sex life for her future husband.
Question #2: Are Ukrainian women virgins until they get marry?
The new generations of Ukrainian and Russian women become more confident about their sexuality and try to talk about sex and the woman’s role in Ukrainian and Russian cultures. In today’s society, even the young girls in Russia and Ukraine are pushing the envelope more and more.
They want to be like the Western women and enjoy the freedom to pursue their sexuality as so many women are doing today. Russian and Ukrainian society becomes modern and virginity is not necessary for Russian and Ukrainian people. It is normal that Russian and Ukrainian women have a sexual relationship and modern couples in Russia and Ukraine live without getting married.
Question #3: If I decide to marry a Ukrainian woman, should I expect the wedding to be in Ukraine?
No, not necessarily.
Question #4: I am 44 yrs old, and by the time I travel to Ukraine, I will turn 45 yrs old while in Odessa. The 5 ladies range in ages from 18-30 yrs old. I am concern about the age difference and want to know if this is a matter of concern or is it normal? I am a career army officer and keep in fairly good physical shape and enjoy the nightlife very much. I think I could still have and show a good time to any woman regardless of age.
The “age difference” issue is very controversial. On one hand, many Western men ask themselves what age difference in Russian/Ukrainian-Western relationships is perfect. On the other hand, older men want to find a Ukrainian or Russian woman who are much younger than they are (and I understand why: this energy, this young beauty….).
I wrote a few articles about the age difference dilemma in a Ukrainian-Western relationship. Furthermore, I often get messages from my readers in which they ask me why younger Ukrainian women are not able or show no interest to understand them. I can say you from my personal experience that Ukrainian and Russian women feel more comfortable with older men (10- 15 years older) as a rule. As you know, the Ukrainian and Russian cultures and societies are rather traditional and conservative. Thus, the men have to support their wives and it is said in Ukraine that older men are better husbands and better supporters.
I would like to say one more time that the age difference between a Western man and a Ukrainian woman is an individual issue. Everyone must know what makes him happy. I am sure that the relationship with a 10 or 20 year age gap can work excellently! If people from different cultures love each other and understand without words – why cannot they be happy together?
Question #5: One of the ladies has spoken of have a big wedding in Ukraine, approximately 200 people give or take a dozen. Who normally pays for the weddings in Ukraine? In America is the father of the Bride. Can you explain who weddings in Ukraine work?
In Ukraine, the bride and groom’s families will generally come to an agreement about who will pay for what. It is not usually assumed that one party or the other will be paying. Often, the decision is arrived upon spontaneously. That means, you should talk about the wedding with your bride and decide who can pay for what things. Honestly, 200 guest are really too many, also for Ukrainian ones. Usually, 40-80 guests are invited to the wedding.
Ukrainian wedding traditions begin with the engagement. It is customary for the groom to visit the home of the bride’s parents, accompanied by two married men, to ask for the woman’s hand in marriage. As in America, both the bride and the groom have private parties with their friends a few days before the ceremony.
On the day of the wedding, the bride gets ready at home with her friends, and the groom comes to pick up the bride, her friends, and her parents in an elaborately decorated car. The bride’s mother is expected to toss rose leaves, coins, and/or seeds to the bride and groom as they leave the house.
All of these items represent life, health, and prosperity for the new family. The wedding concludes with a party for all the family and guests. In the Ukraine, a civil wedding is signed on Saturday while the religious service for the wedding is held on Sunday. Once the service is complete, the bride and groom separate and return to their family homes. A meal is presented at both homes.
On the morning after the wedding, a ceremonial breakfast with all of the guests and both the bride and groom’s family occurs. The formal wedding rituals are then complete, though the frivolity and merry-making continues throughout the day.
Question #6: Is it customary for me to bring a present when we first meet? How expensive should it be? What would be good choices?
Meeting a Ukrainian woman for a first date will require making a first impression. One way for you to do this is by offering some sort of gift. So it is pretty usual that men bring a small gift when you first meet. Gifts that you present to Ukrainian women show that you are attentive, devoted and committed to developing a serious relationship. This provides reassurances that you are sincere in your pursuit.
The type of gift that you offer to a Ukrainian lady is a major factor to receiving her attention. You are safe by offering a bouquet of roses on a first date. However, you will benefit by offering chocolates or a small bottle of perfume. You can find many gift types if you visit Ukraine by looking to see what is available in a duty-free shopping area. Candy to use for the gift can be found at a local confectionery shop.
Your next question is how expensive your gift should be. I have received some messages from my readers with the question if this is usual in Ukraine to buy gifts from $2,000. The reason for this question is the requirement of some Ukrainian women to buy them such an expensive gift because, according to their words, all Ukrainian men buy their favorite woman VERY expensive gifts for certain holidays and buying expensive gifts for them proves the man’s total love for them. As is the case with most women, Ukrainian women love to receive gifts from the men who date them. And just as is the case for most women, it’s not the amount of money that is spent, it’s the symbolism of love and care that matters most.
A Ukrainian woman who presses her man for excessively expensive gifts should be avoided. And although it is true that Ukrainian men buy the ladies they date gifts, they are rarely expensive. After all, as it is in most cultures, it’s the thought that counts, not the money.
I recommend you to read my article “Advice how to navigate your first date with a Ukrainian woman“: http://ukrainiandatingblog.com/2013/03/advice-navigate-first-date-ukrainian-woman/
I hope my tips help you to have a nice date with a woman from Ukraine, and not a full disaster! 🙂
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)