Why do Western men send money to Ukrainian brides they barely know?
Recently, I found a forum discussion why do Western men send money to Ukrainian brides they hardly know. This thread aroused my curiosity because in spite of the huge number of articles on online dating scam, Western men still actively send money to the women they have never met in person and seen just 1 or 2 times. In my today’s article, I would like to discuss this topic. So guys, why do you send money to Ukrainian and Russian women you have never met offline?
As you know and can read on different dating advice services and blogs, many of International dating sites and agencies are not serious and the profiles of girls are not real. It may seem cruel to play with the emotions of somebody, but, honestly, the Ukrainian and Russian mail order bride business has a fairly shady reputation. This reputation has caused many people to steer clear of the industry and find love on their own. Ok, everything is clear! Men should be very cautious and not be naïve.
However, Russian and Ukrainian brides have become increasingly common as a desperate solution for loneliness. A Western man interested in a Russian and Ukrainian bride often has to send her as much as $1,000 a month while she’s still in Russia or Ukraine, just to get her to come over. From my experience as a dating blogger, I can say you that many men will gladly do this for months, even years, while proudly telling their friends about how in love he is with his wife.
As I said above, many Western men will do this even though they have met this woman a handful of times. Some men will do it even if they’ve never seen her in their entire life! They may have only communicated with her via phone calls or even e-mails. Sending a $1,000 to a woman you’ve never met undoubtedly seems insane to a wide group of people.
After all, think about online dating sites in America or another Western country like Germany, UK or France: would you send $1,000 a month to a woman in your home town that you’ve communicated with only via OkCupid? Hopefully, not. Yet, hundreds of men send huge portions of their income to a woman they’ve never met for extended periods of time, hoping to get the woman of their dream.
You can never underestimate the power of true loneliness: many men fool themselves into believing that the “love” they have with their Russian or Ukrainian bride is real and true. Many others are more cynical: they believe that you can “buy” a woman’s love if you send her enough money. Surely, that beautiful Russian or Ukrainian woman will fall in love with him if he sends her $12,000, right?
And then there is the cliché of the “knight in shining armor.” Mail order brides in Ukraine and Russia often describe desperate, unhappy situations in their homeland, that they simply have to escape. The only way she can escape, though, is through the money sent by the “man of her dreams” in America.
This scenario is highly tempting to a wide group of men. There’s nothing more tempting or romantic than coming across as a dashing savior. Many men who send off a third or even half of their paycheck to a woman they might never meet, undoubtedly feel a sense of moral superiority. After all, they are dashing to the rescue of a beautiful woman. What man hasn’t fantasized about that at some time in their life?
The sad truth of the matter, is that men often willing let themselves get duped or seduced by a “too good to be true” situation. They have nothing better going on in their lives and lack the sense of adventure that helps a man feel alive and important. By creating a scenario where they are a type of “conquering hero,” they are creating a (false) sense of adventure that makes them feel more alive. This is true even of those men that know they are being scammed.
However, this isn’t to say that all mail order brides services are scams. There are a few services that are legitimate or that won’t end up costing you thousands of dollars with no real reward. There are a few basic tips you can follow to avoid these scams and stay ahead. Many of these tips are pretty simple to understand and may even be obvious to the average person. However, for the love sick person who isn’t thinking straight, these tips may be essential to avoiding heart ache.
First of all, you need to consider how much money your potential bride is asking you to send. Obviously, you’re going to have to pay a little money for a plane ticket to get your bride to your home country. You may even have to help pay for processing her Green Card / Visa paperwork. But, would somebody that really love you ask you to send them thousands of dollars, before coming to meet you?
I think you know the answer to that question. If somebody is asking your for thousands of dollars, you are likely getting scammed. Don’t let your loneliness and emotional connection from with a picture and a few e-mails let you get pulled into a mail order bride scam. Instead, investigate mail order bride deals and find one that doesn’t ask you to invest thousands of dollars every month. They do exist, but they are hard to find. 🙂
Guys, my question to you: have you ever sent money to the bride you have met in person? If you have, why?
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)