4 common Ukrainian/Russian online dating mistakes to avoid
You are looking for a Ukrainian woman that is cheerful, funny, and romantic and gets your heart racing. Dating has become such a tragedy that you turn to online dating websites and find some rare beauties gracing the Ukrainian/Russian dating pages. Your interests are highly piqued, what exotica, dating a gorgeous woman from Russia or Ukraine.
Sometimes your little guy fantasies do come true and you find that one special bride, the one that stops your heart and makes you sweat, makes you giggle just a little inside. But the reality of Ukrainian online dating is sometimes more fantasy than reality and you may need to slow your roll for a second.
Here are four helpful guidelines to keep in mind as you check the apparently endless stream of profiles from potential Ukrainian or Russian ladies for life and marriage.
RULE #1: DO NOT GET CAUGHT UP IN A FANTASY
The woman on the other side of the world may be everything you could ever imagine and she seems to only have eyes for you. You spend hours every evening talking to her on Skype or web chat and you cannot believe the connection you feel. You cannot help but to imagine how great it would be if she was able to visit the states or possibly even move here permanently. THIS SHOULD BE YOUR FIRST WARNING SIGN! If it seems too good to be true it probably is and you should not overwhelm her with your feelings to soon.
As you know, most Ukrainian & Russian women do desire to move to the West and may do anything to achieve that goal. They could figure once they are here, they are here to stay. And if she really is the real deal, you also do not want to scare her away. Moreover, you can become a scam victim.
In other words, the temptation to imagine a perfect wife from Ukraine can be even greater when you’ve met someone online. I know that most of you are looking for a serious relationship but falling in love “too fast, too furious” is often the worst thing that can happen to an up-and-coming Ukrainian-Western connection. It tends to reduce romance or scares off your Ukrainian bride. After a few romantic messages, you are still getting to know each other, no matter how perfect the woman seems. I have to mention that becoming too attached suggests that you are projecting a fantasy onto the other person.
RULE #2: NEVER ASSUME YOU ARE HER ONE AND ONLY
Ukrainian & Russian online dating has a lot of traps and unseen parameters you need to consider. Most people who interest themselves with online dating are mainly fishing and most often have some great bait and are always looking to catch the biggest fish.
From my experience, I would say that Ukrainian women in general are always weighing their options and like to keep them open. She may be telling you a whopper of a story and reeling you in slowly, but don’t think you are the only fish on the line.
In reality, it is best to as well keep your options open. You do not have to befriend every female you meet online and you also do not want to limit yourself to only one. Also, be honest about your intentions and you may find they will also be honest with you about their intentions.
RULE #3: DO NOT SEND HER MONEY
Some Ukrainian & Russian girls simply cannot help but to all out all the stops to find a sugar daddy and are capable of some really good scams to get you to sympathize with them and send them money when they are really just using you to get a paycheck. There are dating sites especially designed for this type of arrangement and you should guard yourself against these types of women on any dating website.
Sure it may seem like a good idea to treat the new woman in your life like a queen, and you do want her to like you and believe you are a capable provider. But there has to be some limits. You cannot fall for every hard case you meet, no matter how attractive or promising the situation may seem.
You must really use your better judgment, and if you have made a real match, she will accept your terms and appreciate your boundaries. If not, more than likely the only thing they wanted from you was money and it would never have become of anything beyond that type of financial arrangement.
RULE #4: DON’T PREOCCUPY ABOUT THE DETAILS
Don’t become consumed with the idea that the Ukrainian woman out there corresponds precisely to all your tastes and preferences. Finally, I am sure that chances are many of your exes didn’t share your precise tastes, and nine times out of 10, it isn’t why you two broke up. If you preoccupy about the little things, you will probably pass over the dating profiles of Ukrainian women who might truly make you happy.
In conclusion, I would like to say that it can be very hard, when you so seriously want to find “the one,” but getting to know a honest Ukrainian wife, actually, takes a lot of time and patience.
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)