My Ukraine dating story: is it right or is it wrong?

Oh my gosh Sorry this got so long. I really need a little guidance I have no one to talk to!!! :\ Hey If you make it to end thank you!

Hey I have a question, that I can’t find any information on this topic! What if you are a young 27 year old man who is perfectly normal…And charming (And Fairly good looking and in shape 😀 I’m not being conceited Just trying to get an accurate answer.) I am also starting work as a software engineer so I will have a great career.

Does this improve my odds of meeting a great lady or hurt them? I’ve always been fascinated by the idea of International dating! Why not go to place where both people are serious and meet someone special? Plus I can learn Russian with my special lady and we could have secret conversations in America!

I see some men crying online how some lady “scammed” them just for money. These men are just as guilty as the ladies that “scammed” them. Come on a 58 year old man has no business trying to Woo a lady of 18. If you are going to try, they need to be more honest with themselves. They go to Ukraine have dinner, at a fancy restaurant and then complain the ladies only want money. When in retro specs they are only chasing the lady for their beauty. Old man tries to woo lady with his wealth but refuses to spend it on her. Ugh I really don’t like the old men with the victim mentality, they should know and expect the risk. From my research it’s more about custom the man Always pay for lady in Russia/Ukraine. Is this right?

I have searched Ukraine Message forms and learned that many ladies who do peruse men abroad seem to be sincere. They are just as scared about things as we are. Does this seem right? Am I missing something here?

So back to my question does being a younger sincere man give me an advantage?? I am using Anastaiadate (Svadba.com) at the moment, I have found one lady I enjoy more than all the others. It was different as soon as I talked to her. She was aggressive in finding out my motives. Didn’t hesitate to get spunky when she misunderstood me and thought I was being rude.

It was so refreshing, sadly now I am growing very attached. I worry that I might be turning into one of those end men I despise so much. If things ended I would never hold a grudge or wish ill will on the lady. I knew it was a risk before I started, I am trying to start my own business on the side and chatting with her and spending time is start to add up. Take money out of the project for my business.

Sorry this ended up longer than I thought. I worry this lady is actually amazing, I’ve shared so much with her and she has actually tried to take up a few of my hobbies and rights about some of it in Chat. I have such a hard time dispelling the doubt in the back of my mind, can this actually be real.
It’s seriously not even about the money anymore. It would be more disappointing to realize it was all a lie. She is very beautiful to, I mean so pretty I know this lady is out of league I may not be good enough for her. I am kind and sincere and understand and balanced. I genuinely want to know more and more about her. I do not want domestic slave to clean my house and keep prisoner. Are these things enough?

Last thing I promise. I noticed she was on Faceook and VK, I message her a few weeks ago and she never replies to these messages on Facebook or VK. I found that she is a fairly famous model. It’s not hard to find her if you type in Russian Name. She is decently famous…. She asked once if I would like to married, to a women who kept modeling, I told her why would that ever matter?? I would support her in anything she wanted to do. That’s completely her choice. I think it’s hot dating a model 🙂 If some other man steals her away then that’s just the way life is. I really wouldn’t care thought.

Anyways what are your thoughts on this? obviously her looks first drew me in. I didn’t even try to correspond with her seriously at first. Because she was so pretty. She just seemed to so different, She is clever and sweet, and Doesn’t hesitate to let me know I did something wrong. It’s also hard to get a mad reaction out of her. It like she knows I am just pecking at her and she brushes it off lol… Anyways!!! Please tell me I haven’t become like the greedy men I despise so much. I know men can be fools as well, I am no exception.

P.S. She said a couple of times, like speaking with her feels like she is with stone wall or behind stone wall @_@ No idea what that meant. I thought maybe is a compliment but wasn’t sure.

D.

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Krystyna answers:

krystyna

Krystyna

I’m very sorry for my late reply! Being a young mom and blogger takes a lot of time. Anyway, I am very glad that I can answer your questions today and will give my best to help you with my tips and view. Moreover, I would like to say you thank you for sharing your experience with me.

From my research it’s more about custom the man Always pay for lady in Russia/Ukraine. Is this right?

It is right. Many Western men looking for Russian and Ukrainian ladies for marriage are wondering if they should always pay for these women. Many readers ask me often why Ukrainian and Russian women accept the invitation as a tribute and do not offer to pay e.g. for meals at restaurants in return. I can understand well that this aspect of the Ukrainian and Russian culture might look odd and spammy in the Western world.

The explanation for this behavior of women from Ukraine and Russia is very simple, namely: it is a special feature of our mentality which is, as you know, quite conservative. I have to say that the Russian and Ukrainian culture is extremely patriarchal. Russian and Ukrainian women have been raised to expect a male to pay for all dates and expenses related to the relationship. A man who refuses to, or isn’t capable of paying for dates is seen as being unattractive and less masculine than man who happily pay for the expenses.

I have searched Ukraine Message forms and learned that many ladies who do peruse men abroad seem to be sincere. They are just as scared about things as we are. Does this seem right? Am I missing something here?

This is right, too. I have also read the negative expriences by Russian and Ukrainian women looking for a man abroad. As Western men, women become victims of fraud. Western men come to Ukraine and Russia for sex tourism. Western men can lie, cheat and use Russian and Ukrainian women. Thus, also women are very careful in trusting men from the West.

So back to my question does being a younger sincere man give me an advantage??

I do not think so. As for me, age does not play a special role there. If you are an honest and serious man, you have an advantage to find a normal woman from Ukraine or Russia.

Last thing I promise. I noticed she was on Faceook and VK, I message her a few weeks ago and she never replies to these messages on Facebook or VK.

If she does not answer you, it is a bad sign and it is evident that she has no serious intentions or she is a scammer. I recommend you to read this review on (almost the same) possible scam: http://www.ukrainiandatingstories.com/interest-on-ua-dreams-no-interest-on-vk-com/. Think about: if Irina would be interested in developing a serious relationship with you, why does she ignore your messages on social networks?

In my opinion, there are three possible explanations of that.

1. She is a scammer or professional pro-dater. It happens very suddenly… While you think you are getting closer, she’s maneuvering closer to your wallet. All of a sudden, things take a dramatic turn and she needs cash ASAP. Or she says you that she wants to visit you in your country and needs money for tickets, passport, visa etc.

Another con would be if she is a professional pro-dater. She has online communication with dozens of men and keep her “options open.” She tells to every man that she loves him and invites him to visit her in Ukraine. She may desire for you to provide her with an all expense paid trip or various gifts and many of these girls are blunt about it. Unless you are a billionaire & prepared to pay to play with this kitten, this scam can ruin you financially in a matter of weeks or months.

2. You are getting scammed by the dating site or marriage agency you have used. The unscrupulous marriage agencies and dating sites use fake profiles with stolen pictures of attractive women from Ukraine and Russia. That means that your woman has no idea that she has been writing to you and she is looking for a husband abroad.

3. Your woman is working for the dating site or marriage agency you have used. She gets commission from credits purchased by Western men.

In conclusion, I recommend you to watch my video on the Russian and Ukrainian dating scam issue:

I hope I could help you! 🙂

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