My Hard Opinion About The Label “Ukrainian Mail Order Brides”
In the Ukraine there are often few options for marriage, and women are pushed hard to marry as early as possible. By the time we women are between 20-25 we are considered too old for marriage, and finding a husband becomes very important. I know many Ukrainian women begin to post their ads as young as 17 or 18, hoping to find a loving husband.
The label “Ukrainian Mail Order Brides” in my opinion is negative. It is a commercial label that is used to portray us in a negative light such as a gold digger, uneducated or desperate. Many who hear the label “Ukrainian Mail Order Brides” assume we are simply searching for someone to provide us with green cards and this is simply not true. While marrying a man from abroad does help us to become citizens, this is seldom the primary reason Ukrainian women seek a foreign husband.
Like any woman, unmarried women from the Ukraine are seeking a husband who will love and cherish them. I know that this often does include finding a husband who can provide security and a safe home but that doesn’t mean that we’re all after only the richest men possible. By using that negative label it makes it harder for those of us from the Ukraine to find a suitable husband who will be devoted to both being loving and to having a family.
In my opinion, finding love abroad is already hard as I do not have as many opportunities to meet eligible men, so posting an ad to find one is my only real option. The Ukrainian mail order brides label automatically increases how difficult it can be to find a husband who will take the ad seriously.
Many assume that because of the negative association with that label that Ukrainian women are uneducated, which is not true. I know that many women from the Ukraine are well educated and may have careers of their own prior to meeting their future husband.
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