How to verify the true identity of a Ukrainian bride on a dating site

Good Day,

I have been communicating with an absolutely fantastic Ukrainian lady in Kiev for about 3 weeks; close to 4 weeks. I have been trying to verify her identity. I have asked her for her name and mailing address so I can mail small token of my intentions to her. I’m thinking if the small gift gets to here she is who she says.

However, she is telling me that she doesn’t trust the mail system in Ukraine and there is plenty of time for gift giving later. This lady is everything I have hoped for in a potential wife, but feel like giving up because I don’t really know if she is the real thing or some scammer or kid playing a game. What should I do.



Many International dating sites are a scam, with nearly 99% men who use dating sites being effected by them at one point or another. I’ve already written about how to verify the identity of a Ukrainian woman on an online dating site.
See here:

krystynaThere are several steps a man can take to protect himself from this type of scam. The first is to ask the woman for private contact information, such as phone numbers, email address or Facebook profile. Do not ask immediatedly, the woman can be scared if you aks after 1-2 messages.

However, if you see that your communication becomes more active and personal, do not hesitate to ask her e.g. for her mobile number or email adress. Using Skype is also a very good way to verify identify. Fake pictures are common among dating site and mail order bride sites, but a live video chat is very hard to fake.

Another step is to ask for more private photos (but not for some naked photos!!! Women feel offended by such a request. Read more about this: Asking for something specific to be in the photo is also a good way to prove the woman is real and legit. Asking the woman to hold a newspaper with the date on it or a piece of paper with a personalized message on it is an excellent way to verify identity.

To your question #3. “However, she is telling me that she doesn’t trust the mail system in Ukraine and there is plenty of time for gift giving later. ” – her words are not a goog sign, speaking honestly. The mail system in Ukraine works well without any problems. Besides, the people use not only the Ukrainian mail system, but also from Google, Yahoo, Yandex as well as Rambler (Russian mail systems). I personally use the email system by and I am very happy with it. My advise is ask her for skype or ICQ. If she is not ready to send you this info (because she has no Internet, no skype and ICQ and so on), you can be sure that the woman is a fake.

The most helpful and likely most reliable step is to find a reliable local agency or service in Russia, Ukraine or Belarus. These agencies help match men, typically American men, with women who are native to those countries and who want to be a wife and/or legally leave their country.

Finding a woman from Ukraine can work and provide companionship and possibly even life-long love, if done the right way, with a good amount of research and patience.

Goog luck! 🙂

Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)



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2 Responses

  1. Alex says:

    Dear Krystyna,

    I guess he is talking about the mail system for physical letters and parcels. If someone mail an international parcel, will it get delivered to the destination? Will it be thrown away because it does not worth any money? Will it be stolen if it is an expensive item? Will it be delivered to the wrong address?

    I’m also interested in that. Could you tell us your experience? Thanks.


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