Guest post: Communicating with Ukrainian women is a funny business
Today I am resting :). Gil Rio, a dating coach for men, offered to write an article for my blog. Of course, I agreed! Learn how to communicate with Ukrainian women from a Western guy’s point of view. Enjoy! 🙂
In most skills we, men, try to learn – sports, playing instruments, speaking a language, operating a machine, etc. – generally the harder you work at it, the better you do. And, crucially, dedication usually attracts respect and approval. You generally don’t hear your boss or coach tell you to try less hard.
But attracting Ukrainian women is a different game. When you interact with a beautiful Ukrainian girl, trying hard (or at least seeming to) can work against you. Men who strive to get Ukrainian women’s attention tend to be insecure and needy – precisely the characteristics girls run away from.
Walk into any bar and watch how guys behave. Most stand with their buddies and look around, as if in a daze. They watch, but don’t act. They ogle at attractive women, but don’t dare say a word, held in place by their insecurity.
Others find different manifestations for their low self-esteem, like trying to look mean or tough – the guy with a scowl on his face all night, trying to start fights.
What do the wall-flower and the lug have in common? They’re not comfortable in their own skin and they’re not having fun. As a consequence, attractive women from Ukraine and Russia avoid them instinctively.
Fun is contagious. Thanks to a special network of brain cells, known as the mirror neurons, we can not only perceive someone’s emotional state but also feel it ourselves. That’s one reason upbeat people are so well-loved.
Women are especially sensitive to emotional cues. Show her a good time and she’ll keep coming back, even if you make mistakes otherwise. Bore her and she’ll avoid you like the plague.
When you’re out, try to genuinely have fun. Go to venues you like, with music you enjoy, and surround yourself by positive, fun people.
Smile. 🙂 Even forcing a smile gives your brain positive feedback that inevitably makes you more upbeat.
Talk to everyone. Be social. It’s much easier to approach an attractive woman from Ukraine if you’ve been socializing all night. Your subcommunications and body language will be significantly better. Plus, if she sees you interacting with other people it will build social proof in her eyes.
Have a good time with no ulterior motive and spread good emotions around the room and, before you know it, Ukrainian women will be burning to be approached by you.
Guest post by Gil Rio
About the author: Gil Rio is a dating coach with Love Systems Inc.
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)