Advice how to navigate your first date with a Ukrainian woman
You (like many Western men) are familiar with these challenges, namely: communicating with a Ukrainian woman online is fine and phone calls with her are just wonderful. People want to meet each other in person for the first time. Perfect!
However, after this decision most men ask themselves how the first date with the Ukrainian woman should be navigated. As you know, the first date can be a disaster if you do it wrong. Today, we try to answer the following questions: What to do? Who will pay for the first date? How much should you pay at the first day? Preparing for a first date with a Ukrainian lady can be quite nerve-wracking, even for the most mature of individuals. So I am sure that my advice may be very helpful for you.
I get many mails from my readers who share their experience about their dating in Ukraine. Some of them had to spend more than $300 on the first date because Ukrainian ladies led them to the most expensive restaurants and wanted to go on a private taxi home. So the question is this is normal or not? Do Ukrainian men do the same or not? My answer is NO, this is not normal. No, Ukrainian men do not spend usually $300 at the first date.
Before I give you some advice how to navigate the first date with a Ukrainian lady, I would like to describe you the average scenario of a date in Ukraine. The fact is that only a few men in Ukraine earn more than $1,500 per month, and that means that only a few men in Ukraine are able to invite a girl to an expensive restaurant and spend $300 for the meal and taxi.
Generally, the daters go to a middle-class (not expensive, but not very cheap) cafe for coffee and something to eat. In this case, we’re talking about people who earn an average salary per month ($300-500). Usually, Ukrainian men spend max. 200 hryvna (about $20) for the evening.
What about the dates with Western men? What do Ukrainian women expect from Western men at the first meeting? And how to prepare for the first date? My first advice is that you must NOT spend a lot of money at the first date ($150-300 are too much). A bouquet of beautiful flowers is a really MUST-HAVE at the first meeting with Ukrainian and Russian ladies. A medium bouquet costs about 100-150 hryvna (about $10-15), and I think that it is an economical sign of attention for a beautiful girl.
The second advice is that you should be ready to pay for the dinner. Ukrainian and Russian ladies do accept the invitation as an acknowledgment and do not offer to pay e.g. for meals at restaurants in return. It is a special feature of our mentality which is rather traditional. If you are looking for a Ukrainian wife, you should know that (you find more information on this issue in my article “Should Western men always pay for Ukrainian & Russian ladies?”).
But you can prepare for that and impress your girl by finding a restaurant for dinner. You can ask for nice restaurants at the hotel reception desk where you live during your trip in Ukraine. Besides, you can use Internet (I am sure there are a plenty of reviews of other men who describe different restaurants, cafes or clubs during their trips in Ukraine). A dinner at a middle-class restaurant/café for two persons may cost 300-500 hryvna (about $30-50).
If your date tells you about (very) expensive restaurants like “Veljur” or “Inter-Continental” in Kiev, you must be aware to pay more than $1000 per dinner. So it is recommended to make an online research and learn the names of expensive restaurants in the city where the first date will take place. Thus, your date will not become a big financial disaster for you. 😉
As you see, an average date with a Ukrainian woman will cost you about $70 (flowers and dinner). If you want to be a REALLY BIG gentleman, you can offer your woman to pay for a taxi. Usually, it costs about 100 hryvna ($10), not $50-100.
How to react if a Ukrainian woman wants to clearly make you bankrupt? If the woman obviously shows you that she is displeased by your choice of the restaurant and after dinner she can no longer go home by public transport and can imagine going home only on a private taxi which costs 4 times more expensive than the official one. Well, in my opinion, this is more than evident that this kind of woman you are dating is more interested in your wallet than in you.
Developing a communication and relationship with this woman makes no sense (or do you guess that I am wrong?). I am sure that these professional pro-daters and gold diggers in Ukraine and Russia will use your wallet until you become suspicious and stop spending your money for her needs.
Guys, believe me Ukrainian and Russian gold diggers know better than to ask you to fund their expensive tastes, at least in the beginning; they’ll tap into your desire to help them afford the things they need (food, accommodation, transportation). If you want to pay about $200-300 per date with the Ukrainian woman in the hope that she would later change her desires and will understand your financial opportunities, you are really foolish enough if you think so (in my hard opinion). So do not waste your time and money and look only for normal women in Ukraine! Believe me you will find them!
Good luck in Ukraine! 🙂
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)