6 Ukrainian women questions to take your dating experience to a higher level

Dear friends,

This post is dedicated to asking and answering questions about Ukrainian dating and marriage relationships. You will find 6 interesting, helpful and amusing questions that will take your Ukrainian women experience to a higher level. Enjoy! 🙂

Question #1: You speak of the first date, and falling in love.  But what about passion? What about sex? Is it ok to kiss on the first date?

I cannot tell you that women of Ukraine are ready to show you passion and make love on the first date. I think that only a few Ukraine ladies would agree to have sex on the first date. As you know, Ukrainian / Russian culture differs from Western culture. Thus, the Ukrainian and Russian woman’s attitude towards sex, hugs and kisses differs from the Western woman’s attitude.

You should know that our culture is rather conservative (the women are shy and do not kiss at the first date usually). Many readers write me that Ukrainian and Russian ladies are very shy, cannot or do not want to hug or kiss Western men, and it is really difficult sometimes to find out whether the woman is into you or not.

That makes the cross-cultural communication more complicated, in my opinion. Many women in Ukraine are waging a silent war for their own sexuality. In Literature, they are taught that they are to not even engage in a kiss without love being a priority. This makes the woman unable to explore her own sexual thoughts and attitudes to form a healthy sex life for her future husband.

Question #2: Are Ukrainian women virgins until they get marry?

The new generations of Ukrainian and Russian women become more confident about their sexuality and try to talk about sex and the woman’s role in Ukrainian and Russian cultures. In today’s society, even the young girls in Russia and Ukraine are pushing the envelope more and more.

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They want to be like the Western women and enjoy the freedom to pursue their sexuality as so many women are doing today. Russian and Ukrainian society becomes modern and virginity is not necessary for Russian and Ukrainian people. It is normal that Russian and Ukrainian women have a sexual relationship and modern couples in Russia and Ukraine live without getting married.

Question #3: If I decide to marry a Ukrainian woman, should I expect the wedding to be in Ukraine?

No, not necessarily.

Question #4: I am 44 yrs old, and by the time I travel to Ukraine, I will turn 45 yrs old while in Odessa. The 5 ladies range in ages from 18-30 yrs old.  I am concern about the age difference and want to know if this is a matter of concern or is it normal?  I am a career army officer and keep in fairly good physical shape and enjoy the nightlife very much.  I think I could still have and show a good time to any woman regardless of age.

The “age difference” issue is very controversial. On one hand, many Western men ask themselves what age difference in Russian/Ukrainian-Western relationships is perfect. On the other hand, older men want to find a Ukrainian or Russian woman who are much younger than they are (and I understand why: this energy, this young beauty….).

I wrote a few articles about the age difference dilemma in a Ukrainian-Western relationship. Furthermore, I often get messages from my readers in which they ask me why younger Ukrainian women are not able or show no interest to understand them. I can say you from my personal experience that Ukrainian and Russian women feel more comfortable with older men (10- 15 years older) as a rule. As you know, the Ukrainian and Russian cultures and societies are rather traditional and conservative. Thus, the men have to support their wives and it is said in Ukraine that older men are better husbands and better supporters.

I would like to say one more time that the age difference between a Western man and a Ukrainian woman is an individual issue. Everyone must know what makes him happy. I am sure that the relationship with a 10 or 20 year age gap can work excellently! If people from different cultures love each other and understand without words – why cannot they be happy together?

Question #5: One of the ladies has spoken of have a big wedding in Ukraine, approximately 200 people give or take a dozen.  Who normally pays for the weddings in Ukraine? In America is the father of the Bride. Can you explain who weddings in Ukraine work? 

In Ukraine, the bride and groom’s families will generally come to an agreement about who will pay for what. It is not usually assumed that one party or the other will be paying. Often, the decision is arrived upon spontaneously. That means, you should talk about the wedding with your bride and decide who can pay for what things. Honestly, 200 guest are really too many, also for Ukrainian ones. Usually, 40-80 guests are invited to the wedding.

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Ukrainian wedding traditions begin with the engagement. It is customary for the groom to visit the home of the bride’s parents, accompanied by two married men, to ask for the woman’s hand in marriage. As in America, both the bride and the groom have private parties with their friends a few days before the ceremony.

On the day of the wedding, the bride gets ready at home with her friends, and the groom comes to pick up the bride, her friends, and her parents in an elaborately decorated car. The bride’s mother is expected to toss rose leaves, coins, and/or seeds to the bride and groom as they leave the house.

All of these items represent life, health, and prosperity for the new family. The wedding concludes with a party for all the family and guests. In the Ukraine, a civil wedding is signed on Saturday while the religious service for the wedding is held on Sunday. Once the service is complete, the bride and groom separate and return to their family homes. A meal is presented at both homes.

On the morning after the wedding, a ceremonial breakfast with all of the guests and both the bride and groom’s family occurs. The formal wedding rituals are then complete, though the frivolity and merry-making continues throughout the day.

Question #6: Is it customary for me to bring a present when we first meet? How expensive should it be? What would be good choices?

Meeting a Ukrainian woman for a first date will require making a first impression. One way for you to do this is by offering some sort of gift. So it is pretty usual that men bring a small gift when you first meet. Gifts that you present to Ukrainian women show that you are attentive, devoted and committed to developing a serious relationship. This provides reassurances that you are sincere in your pursuit.

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The type of gift that you offer to a Ukrainian lady is a major factor to receiving her attention. You are safe by offering a bouquet of roses on a first date. However, you will benefit by offering chocolates or a small bottle of perfume. You can find many gift types if you visit Ukraine by looking to see what is available in a duty-free shopping area. Candy to use for the gift can be found at a local confectionery shop.

Your next question is how expensive your gift should be. I have received some messages from my readers with the question if this is usual in Ukraine to buy gifts from $2,000. The reason for this question is the requirement of some Ukrainian women to buy them such an expensive gift because, according to their words, all Ukrainian men buy their favorite woman VERY expensive gifts for certain holidays and buying expensive gifts for them proves the man’s total love for them. As is the case with most women, Ukrainian women love to receive gifts from the men who date them. And just as is the case for most women, it’s not the amount of money that is spent, it’s the symbolism of love and care that matters most.

A Ukrainian woman who presses her man for excessively expensive gifts should be avoided. And although it is true that Ukrainian men buy the ladies they date gifts, they are rarely expensive. After all, as it is in most cultures, it’s the thought that counts, not the money.

I recommend you to read my article “Advice how to navigate your first date with a Ukrainian woman“: https://ukrainiandatingblog.com/2013/03/advice-navigate-first-date-ukrainian-woman/

I hope my tips help you to have a nice date with a woman from Ukraine, and not a full disaster! 🙂



Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)



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  1. Christopher Okano says:

    I would like to share my experience with you about my trip to the Ukraine and offer some advice to men considering finding a wife.

    Ukrainian and Russian women have been have been constantly exploited for sex by men from different countries traveling to these countries for that sole purpose. They have promised these women their false sincerity and promises of marriage breaking their hearts and letting them down into deep despair. As a result women from these countries have very little trust in regard to the sincerity of foreign men even if many men are truly sincere. They have to pay the price from the wrongs created by men that were insincere. It has created a very big problem that complexes find a wife and it has made the cost of finding a foreign wife astronomically expensive.

    In 2012 I went to the Ukraine after communicating with four different women for more that eight months that were from different cities in the Ukraine. Each woman I corresponded with knew that I had been alone in life for more then 6 years and that my intension for going to the Ukraine was solely to find a compatible mate in life. During this 8 month period our written communication was about developing a relationship leading to marriage and family. All of the women I communicated with claimed to desire a good man for the same purpose and our letter to each other were reflective of this mutual intent. So after many months of writing online through emails and chat at an expense of nearly $9,000.00 + dollars by invitation I made arrangements to travel to the Ukraine to meet the women I had written to for eight months.

    In September of 2012 I arrived in Kiev, Ukraine took a taxi to my booked hotel and the next day contacted a woman I had been writing to for eight months. Her reply even asking me to come to the Ukraine was “I cannot meet with you.” So my first week in Kiev was spent taxing around the city touring the different historical sites. After a week I got in contact with a woman from Nikolaev, Ukraine that invited me and that claimed she wanted to meet me that I had also written for eight months.

    So, I took a bus from Kiev to Nikolaev and arrived at my booked hotel. As soon as I arrived I called her number, the same number I used to contact her before I left Kiev and I could not reach her. I sent her emails for three days and also repeatedly called trying to reach her in Nikolaev with no result. After photo touring around Nikolaev for four days. I contacted another woman I had written to for eight months in Kharkov, Ukraine through email who wanted to see me their. Then I took a taxi to Kharkov, to my booked hotel. Upon my arrival in Kharkov I contacted this woman and made arrangements to meet with her and an interpreter for dinner.

    Agency interpreter fee are 20.00 per hour and taxi fare for both plus the cost of dinner. On the average for a four to five hour meeting total cost is between 280.00 to 300.00 for each meeting including dinner cost for three people not including any gift you may desire to buy for your date. I met with this woman four times and our first meeting was honestly similar to having met someone for the first time at a bus stop an hour before; no mention of our correspondence for eight months about a relationship and marriage ever was discussed. After the third date I brought it up with the interpreter at our third dinner and all that was said was a request to send her an invitation to visit the U.S. through the government. At the end of the third date I tried to kiss her good night before she and the interpreter went home and she refused. Earlier that evening I had bought her a nice pair of boots she liked for 300.00 as a gift. At this point I was disappointed and felt hurt honestly by her rejection and lack of communication about the development of a relationship and I told myself that our fourth meeting would be our last if I felt again distance and a lack of our becoming close to each other again. Sure enough at the end of our fourth date together I tried to kiss her and hold her and she refused completely. It was obvious to me an attraction towards each other was non-existent and that no relationship can be built like this. The next day I called her cancelled or flowing date and told her I had to leave which I did. Again I tried to contact the woman in Nikolaev through email and she was very apologetic and asked me to forgive her because she was ill in the hospital at the time I tried to meet with her. So, back to Nikolaev I went again by Taxi arriving at my booked hotel.

    The next day and for three consecutive days I met with the woman from Nikolaev and her interpreter going to different places together in Nikolaev and eating at nice restaurants. At the end for the third evening I tried to kiss my date good night and she refused to kiss me. I couldn’t believe it especially after we had been discussing being together as a couple during the day. During the third day this woman explained to me that she had to have surgery and I gave her 800.00 to help her get the surgery she needed.

    On the fourth day I met with them in the morning and spent most of the day with them again doing things together. In the morning of the fourth day I asked my date to come with me to a private place in the lobby of the hotel and I again I tried to kiss her and she refused. We walked a short distance into the restaurant where the interpreter was waiting and when we sat down I began having a conversation with my dates interpreter about my dates intensions as she had claimed to want us to become engaged.

    I told her interpreter that I didn’t think my date was sincere about saying she wanted us to become engaged when she doesn’t even desire to kiss her proposed fiancée. I was passively furious about it inside trying to control getting loud in the restaurant about it. Then her interpreter said that she had met and American man and that they had agreed to become engaged and that they were never intimate until his fourth trip to the Ukraine. I told her it wasn’t normal and I told her I do not believe my date has sincere feeling of engagement with me if she will not even allow me to kiss her. The Interpreters reply was that “I am being selfish.”

    Immediately I got up alone and left the restaurant leaving them both there while I went to take a walk. I had had it and needed to calm down before I lost it. I was away from the for about 20 minutes cooling down and debating to myself if I even needed to come back at all. Finally I returned and said lets just spend the day together. At the end of the fourth evening finally my date allowed me to kiss her good night. Thank you, LOL. She also told me that she had to go into the hospital the following morning and would not be able to see me for a four days while she was in the hospital.

    I said to her I will come see you in the hospital and bring you flowers and she said she didn’t want me to see her in the hospital that her mother would be there with her. Very unusual but again I had pretty much ad it with the days previous events, kissed her goodnight and told her that I would be going to Odessa for three days while she was in the hospital. The next morning off to Odessa I went again to tour the city and meet yet another person and her interpreter.

    I met once with my date in Odessa and spent the day touring the city and having dinner together. We were not very compatible and after the first date I spent the next two days alone touring Odessa with an English speaking taxi driver who was honestly a nice tour guide. After this I was contacted by the woman in Nikolaev that met with me with her interpreter for two more days asked me for 700.00 to help her with her medical problem (kidney stones requiring surgery), and that after the second meeting that she would be in the hospital for two weeks. I told her I had to return to America as at that point I had been in the Ukraine nearly a month. We never became intimate with each other and I just felt that any woman that claimed to want to marry a man and had no desire to be romantically intimate with him is not being truthful with him.

    So the next day she had to enter the hospital as she claimed and I took a taxi back to Kiev, Ukraine where I stayed another 14 days. During that 14 days I met two other women with the help of an interpreter. The first was a lawyer working in a shoe store. We met and went to dinner , went shopping where I bought my date a nice coat and the next day my date wanted to meet for lunch at her work.

    I said I will bring something to your work and we can eat lunch together when you have your lunch break she agreed that this was a good idea. So with the help an English speaking taxi driver friend, the taxi driver killed ourselves to go through intensely heavy traffic order a pizza and get to her place of work on time. Once the taxi driver and I arrived he waited outside while I took the pizza in to her work. When I brought the pizza in she came up to me and said that I could not eat there with her and she took the pizza and I had to leave giving me a hug. LOL When I told the taxi driver what had happened he became so angry more than I was about it.

    We had worked so hard together to get that pizza and get there on time so this woman and I could have lunch with each other whom had agreed to do this with me. The taxi driver and I were tired and astonished and it took us three hours to get back to our hotel. Unbelievable God!

    The next day my interpreter friend helped me to meet another woman that I really liked a lot but at the end of the day this woman told me that she thought I was too old for her and her son and we didn’t meet again. Two days later this same interpreter introduced me to someone else and I went with the interpreter, her young son my date and her young daughter spending the day together in Cherniv together. I wasn’t attracted to my date and told the interpreter that was not interested. I took a taxi back to kiev that evening arriving at my hotel around midnight. I stayed in Kiev for tow more days and then returned empty handed to the U.S.

    The cost of my total trip not including online correspondence was $22,000.00 USD. I do not drink or go to clubs and bars as I am a Christian, knowing maybe I would had had a more romantic time had I gone there instead. But I could not do this.

    So this is my experience with meeting people from reputable online foreign dating sites and believing women that claim to want a good man and a family life. I am still alone in life even after this now going on eight years.

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