Three destructive qualities of Ukrainian & Russian brides
As you know, many times the average Ukrainian/Russian woman and the average Western woman get compared. When these two types of women get compared, the positive qualities of the average Ukrainian or Russian woman are often magnified. Being more feminine and more family oriented are positive qualities that are often mentioned about us, Ukrainian ladies. Though these positive features may exist, there are negative qualities that the average Ukrainian women possess that could cause problems in a marriage.
Negative quality #1: Anger
In the Western culture, women are known to become angry from time to time. During these low occurrences the women are usually able to be calmed down without much energy. In a marriage with an average Ukrainian or Russian woman anger can become a problem that is not so easily handled (I write this from my personal experience :)). Women from Ukraine and Russia have a slightly higher anger quotient (A.Q) than Western women.
Why is this so important for a man to know before they get married? I have to mention that having a wife that gets angry quicker than the average Western woman can lead to a more stressful marriage. More arguments can occur easily raising the tension within the household. This can easily affect one’s work day, weekend, health, or children in the household. If children exist in the household, the higher A.Q. presented by the Ukrainian / Russian wife can cause the child to have emotional challenges. This type of behavior can also be mimicked by the child.
Negative quality #2: Extremeness
Anger is not the only negative quality that the average Ukrainian / Russian woman can have. Guys, you should be aware of the extremeness that these women possess. In Western culture, many individuals learn etiquette and manners. Women from Ukraine and Russia are instilled with their own cultural etiquette. For example, the average woman in Ukraine can be seen as straight forward and direct.
Though this is a quality that can be praised at times, it can all so be perceived as disrespectful. Instead of asking, a Russian woman may just say “give me that” or “give me this”. This can cause tension during family gatherings. This tension can lead to rifts within the family, all because of the straightforward and direct behavior of one’s Ukrainian / Russian wife.
A Ukrainian woman may also have other habits that conflict with manners that are widely accepted in the western culture. Using the words “please and thank you”, are seen as normal verbal gestures. From my experience, the average Ukrainian woman that is not trained in these manners can cause a husband embarrassment.
These gestures are expected at certain establishments such as restaurants, around the husband’s co-workers, or at any gathering with other people. A woman that does not have these particular manners can be viewed as a disrespectful person. Having a wife that is seen as being disrespectful can have an effect on how a person is treated by restaurant staff or co-workers. Less customer service can be given or co-workers may become distant.
Negative quality #3: Self-worth
Having an innate sense of self-worth can have a negative effect on a marriage. Self-worth is a characteristic that is often praised. It can represent one’s value of self. How can self-worth be negative? Every Ukrainian / Russian woman that has elevated self-worth has the ability to clash with the western culture.
In a marriage, this can cause women to be less compromising. As you know, self-worth can cause a person to be very prideful. In a marriage, the average woman from Ukraine or Russia can take pride in her intellectual, social, sexual, or physical abilities causing the woman to possibly undermine her husband’s role in the household. If the man is seen in the head, the average Ukraine or Russian woman can often challenge his position because of her elevated view of her abilities. She can see the man as being inferior. When this occurs the husband will possibly be in a continuous battle trying to prove his position in the home or his manhood.
In conclusion, I would say that being feminine or family oriented are great qualities for a wife to have but, there is more qualities that should be considered. The average Ukrainian bride possesses qualities that could break a marriage such as a higher anger quotient, extreme behavior, and an innate sense of self-worth. Frequently compared data should not be the only information used to choose a bride. Understanding a person’s culture and personality should also be used. This can help to assure a harmonized marriage. 🙂
Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)