How to make your Ukrainian lady’s life easier?

Hi Krystyna,

Firstly, I just wanted to write and say 1) this is a nice blog you have 🙂 and 2) you are a very beautiful lady and I hope that makes you smile 🙂

Okay here is my question 🙂 I went to Ukraine this last October and met a wonderful lady in Kiev. She lives in a small village about 4 hours south of Kiev (Tarnava village). Her life is really hard. I mean she has 2 cows, and is constantly pitching hay, and taking care of her animals and planting and harvesting. She does speak some English (enough for us to talk). I have to say that she is one of the most genuine persons I have ever met in my life though as far as explaining to me what her life is really like. When I went to Kiev she took the bus with her male cousin (chaperone) 4.5 hours and met me at the train station. So I will be going back in a month or two.

I guess my question is… what do you think I could do for her to make her life easier while I am here and she is there?

Oh and a second question. Do you think a man should visit more than one lady when he comes to Ukraine? And should he tell the ladies about this?

Well that is all. Thanks for this blog and for answering me 🙂




Krystyna answers:



Hello Peter,

thank you very much for your wonderful words about my blog! 🙂

To your questions:

Question 1: what do you think i could do for her to make her life easier while i am here and she is there?

I would suggest to organize some special moments for your woman in Ukraine (wonderful dates at restaurants, shopping, theather/opera, etc.). I know that your woman does not know these moments in her hard everyday life and she will be very surprised about your dates.

Do not forget to bring some gifts from USA. Gifts that you present to your Ukrainian woman show that you are attentive, devoted and committed to developing a serious relationship. This provides reassurances that you are sincere in your pursuit. The type of gift that you offer to the woman is a major factor to receiving their attention. You are safe by offering a bouquet of roses on a first date.

However, you will benefit by offering chocolates or a small bottle of perfume (I would recommend you to buy a classic perfume, such as Chanel Coco Mademoiselle or Bvlgari Jasmin Noir). Furthermore, I would also recommend you to buy a piece of jewelry (a necklace or earrings). It mustn’t be expensive (for example silver), but just nice, simple and elegant.

Question 2: Do you think a man should visit more than one lady when he comes to Ukraine?

I think Western men should visit more than one lady when he comes to Ukraine FOR THE FIRST TIME. It might seem a little unfair to a woman if she knows that you are writing to more women than her, especially if she’s only interested in you. In my opinion, it’s not the very worst thing you could do; telling her she’s the only one for you and then dumping her for someone else is a little worse.

I know that when I go out and meet someone new, I can tell right away whether or not there’s a connection and an attraction. It’s much harder to tell when communicating through a dating service, especially when you’re talking to someone from another country. After all, you can’t actually touch the person; also, unless you ask her to do a few spins for you on camera, you won’t really know what she looks like from all angles.

What happens if you finally meet her and find that she has six toes on one foot and a mole on her head that you can feel when you run your fingers through her hair? That might sound a bit superficial, but it’s a reality. You have to be just as physically attracted to her form as you are mentally intrigued by her mind. Regardless if you speak to one woman a million times on a webcam, you won’t truly know how compatible you are until you stand face to face.

You just have to keep your options open and be happy with the woman you eventually meet. If nothing else, you can at least chat with a few different women to see whose personality best suits your own. After all, if you really love Ukrainian women, you’re going to want to meet as many as you can to make sure you find the one you’re meant to be with.

Question 3: And should he tell the ladies about this?

You tell the women that you have other dates – it is normal and I am sure that before the relationship the woman have other dates. But if you decide to be only with this woman, you should delete your profile on a dating site.



Questions? Feel free to ask Krystyna, your Ukrainian dating expert 🙂 (s. here: Contact Krystyna)



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