Thank you for a great blog, I happend to stumple over it while googling for the mindset of young Ukrainian women, and your clear language on the site is very rare when searching on this subject.
I have only very recently registered on Anastasia. The responces to my listing have been overwhelming I must say, and have completely taking me with major surprise. In the first month I have stopped counting the letters all these nice women send me, when the count reached 400+
Is the responcelevel really that high?, or have I written something that hit most Ukrainian women’s interest?… I’m very pussled over this… here in Denmark I havent ever had any real interest from women in general, besides they all think I’m a plessant and good friend at best.
However, after a little dissapointment with one lady I was writing a responce to, to her first letter, and after that got a strange message that she wanted a “real relationship not correspondence“?! (let me just know you a little better first my dear :-), I was about to delete my profile again, besides the many responces, I couldnt really find a woman that “ticked all my boxes”.
Dating younger Ukrainian women
A week later, I gave it a shot more and thought that I actively needed to do a better effort in my search, before I leave the site. I was still lonely and still wanted to find my soulmate, so at least I could try, right?…
I have just past 40 years young, have unfortunally no kids yet, so I wanted to find a lady who was younger than me and without kids of her own yet (I have raised my exwifes 3 kids from her former mariage), and have so set the “age preferrence” to between 20 – 30, even though 20 is a bit low for me. I wouldnt however miss out on the perfect one, just because of the age…
Whenever I login to Anastasia, I usually have a constant of 2-7 chatinvitations from ladys, and that continue until I logoff again, so I need to minimize the windows, otherwize the whole of my right side of the screen cant be read. I know most would see this as an advantage, but I actually thought its a bit annoying.
I’m getting to the point now ;-), one day a chatinvitation cought my eye, “I have seen your profile, and think we could be right for eachother” – something made me feel a connection with this lady just by seeing her message and picture – and I checked out the lady’s profile and was very interested straight on.
Chatting with younger girls
For the first time I initiated a chat on Anastasia, not really sure how it worked, I managed to get a simple message through to her, and my heart missed a beat when she responded, what a thrill!.
We instantly connected with similar views on the world, life, and a lot of other stuff which I wont bore you to death with :-), just tell you that I promissed to send her a letter, which was send the same night.
A long story short, we have been mailing back and forward a couple of times now, and I’m now arranging for a visit to Odessa on my own speed, since I’m only going to meet her and see how we connect, and if we do connect at all. The social tours from Anastasia remind me of a meetmarket, and even though many men would love this, it just dosnt appeal to me.
What is the acceptable age difference?
The issue here is that she is only 20 years old, and I’m a little concerned that she is still to unexperienced in real life, and that could give some issues and difficulties.
Here in Denmark a relationship with such an age difference would be looked upon as me being almost phediofile, so that concerns me a bit. I have read that its more normal in Ukraine that the women find older men, but that an age gap on 20 years is still much.
I have no real problem with her being as young as she is, I believe that love has no age, but it still concerns me a bit though, but that could be based in difference in cultures maybe. A young woman as her, wont she have an urge to have fun with friends, party in town, and generally have different priorities before she wish to settle with a family of her own?, and I’m trying to understand what mindset a young woman like her has?!… can you advice me on that?, I cant really find anything usable anywhere…
During some of our very long chatsessions on Anastasia, which is f****** expensive I must say (I have used over $1.000 in less than 2 weeks), I have tried to get her to understand that I’m comming to see her, but she isnt very understanding for the fact that it will take a month before I arrive, I have a job that I need to attend, and which I just cant leave from one day to another.
Furthermore, I have for various reasons a little issue releasing enough funds in my properties to just throw myself into a plane and take off, so a trip needs to be carefully planned for me. She is as said a little unhappy about that fact, and dont seem to understand it completely, so I hope you can tell me a little more about the mindset of a young woman!, is she uninterested?, or is she just disappointet that I cant be there with her right now?.
Do I got anything to worry about you think?, or is it just because she is as young as she is??. And another important thing of course, how is the age-gap looked upon in Ukraine?, and in the minds of young women as her?.
I dont really know if she corresponds with other men, but she has promissed me to guide me around town when I arrive, and that we will see eachother every day during my 2 week stay, just to get to know eachother better. Shu studies, and therefore needs to attend her school also in daytime.
I really hope you can help me here, I will streach my budget a bit here just to go see her, so any help would be greatly appreciated.
Krystyna answers: Age difference in Slavic dating
I wrote a few articles about the age difference dillema in a Ukrainian-Western relationship. Furthermore, I often get messages from my readers in which they ask me why younger Ukrainian women are not able or show no interest to understand them.
In my opinion, the answer is simple: because they are young gils and have no (or very little) experience. The girls at the age 20 years old do not know the world of relationships – they do not know what responsibility, compromises, security and understanding mean.
Younger girls want to make a successful career at the age of 18-25 y.o. and enjoy their young life without any problems. They want to go to parties, spend their time with friends, shopping, girl evenings…..
Is age really matter in a relationship?
I have to mention that men are usually older than women in a Ukrainian relationship. But we talk about 5-10 years, not 20 years. There are happy exceptions, but the relationships with big age difference will always have problems because the partners come from different generations, they have different priorities in life and different family values.
You should not expect so much from your first meeting with this woman in Odessa. I would be very happy if you can start a relationship together. But I must honestly say that the women at this age are just immature for a serious relationship. I know this because I was 20 y.o. 10 years ago and was not able to have a serious relationship with a man. Of course, there are exceptions when 18 year old girls are ready to become a wife and mother.
You’ll find your dream woman from Ukraine with whom you will be happy. But I would give you one piece of advice: look for a 30-year-old woman because the women at this age want (or better to say, are mature for) a serious relationship. They give you warmth and safety; they are ready to find compromises with you and are not so selfish as younger girls.
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About the blogger: Krystyna is an International dating blogger, coach and iDate speaker. She is on mission to help Western men to understand foreign women better and how to succeed on the International dating websites.
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