Today, we talk about one of the most scrupulous issues about which everyone is thinking but afraid to speak, namely: Ukrainian and Russian ladies’s attitude towards sex in a relationship and marriage. No one will deny that the subject of sexuality in each relationship plays a major role. And I am sure harmony in sexual life is the (romantic) key to a happy relationship.
Different attitudes towards sex life?
I am familiar with this problem, namely: many Western men do not know how they may express their sexual desires while dating Russian brides and Ukrainian mail order brides.
Furthermore, Western men tell that Ukrainian and Russian ladies are very shy, cannot or do not want to hug or kiss Western men, and it is really difficult sometimes to find out whether the woman is into you or not. That makes the cross-cultural communication more complicated, in my opinion.
I attended a seminar on Language & Sexuality at the university in Frankfurt, thus I am trying to tell you, guys, in academic way why the Ukrainian and Russian lady’s attitude towards sex life in a marriage is a cultural issue and why talking about sex and sexuality in Russia and Ukraine is still a big taboo. I hope you will learn more useful information about the Ukrainian and Russian culture after reading my article.
Talking about Slavic women’s sexuality
Slavic mail order brides have changed their roles over the last decade or so. Unfortunately, Russia and Ukraine have not changed much in their attitudes towards women. Women in these two countries are often not respected or highly valued. They are viewed more as objects to be used by men and discarded at will.
Many women in these countries are waging a silent war for their own sexuality. Not content to stand in a man’s shadow, the new generations of Ukrainian and Russian women are secretly allowing their sexuality to come forth in the hopes that one day their countries will come to more liberal terms about sex and the woman’s role.
Why Ukrainian ladies do not talk about this
Most females in these countries are taught that sex is a dirty word and that nice girls don’t do it. Many traditional families believe that talking about sex is just as obscene as taking part in a sex act.
Even in educational environments where the factual terms of anatomy should be taught, the lessons were often taught in hush-hush tones and this further clouded the subject of sex for most females.
Since most girls are not taught at home or even at school about sex, they often take to the streets to get their education. It is said that about 10 to 15 % of Russian girls start having sex around the age of fifteen. These girls see the Western girl’s attitudes towards sex and this clashes with what they know in their own cultures. They end up succumbing to sexual lives long before they are physically or emotionally ready.
Females are taught that they are to be bashful and quiet in all ways. In Literature, they are taught that they are to not even engage in a kiss without love being a priority.
This makes the woman unable to explore her own sexual thoughts and attitudes to form a healthy sex life for her future husband. This causes more questions than answers and makes the subject of sex so taboo that females often form the wrong understanding of sex and these clouds how they respond to the marriage bed.
Times are changing
This puts even more strain on the female because she is under the scrutiny of family and is not able to truly express her sexual desire for her husband. Since there is no privacy, the woman is often kept quiet during the sexual act and not allowed to explore the true nature of her sexual desire.
As times change, it is hoped that women’s roles in the Russian and Ukrainian society change to conform to more modern standards. Women in these countries deserve more respect so that they do not fall into the sexual traps that are set for them by men who have less than honorable intentions. If women are taught that they deserve respect, they will in turn respect themselves.
It is time that Russia and the Ukraine come out of the dark ages and embrace the beauty of the female without turning her into an object to be used and destroyed.
About the blogger: Krystyna is an International dating blogger, coach and iDate speaker. She is on mission to help Western men to understand foreign women better and how to succeed on the International dating websites.
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