these days, everybody’s looking for love. And the internet has stepped in to help fulfill this need. This was great back when online dating first started, but now the online world has become extremely crowded. Everyone from scammers to pick up artists and professional pro-daters are setting up profiles, often making your regular guy feel like a failure before he even begins.
To help solve your problems in the International online dating world, here are some useful tips to help Western men meet Ukrainian and Russian women and establish genuine relationships. Because despite the sex craze, we still ultimately yearn for a meaningful connection with a partner. And it is possible, but there are a few things to keep in mind.
Here are some mistakes most men make when using Ukrainian and Russian online dating as well as a few tips you should consider to increase your success online.
Mistake #1: Falsifying yourself in your online dating profile.
I would say that many men are insecure about something. Whether it’s their age, looks, or height. Because of this they often attempt to misrepresent themselves in their profile in order to appear more attractive to women.
This can work to initially attract women, but what happens when you actually meet her in person? She’ll instantly know you lied. That means no date for you. Be honest about yourself in your online profile!
Mistake #2: Focusing too much on your career and forgetting your woman from Ukraine or Russia
Many men will treat meeting women online as a side project instead of making it a priority. If you want a genuine relationship, however, it’s important that dating makes the top of your list. Ukrainian and Russian women are attracted to men who give them their full attention.
If you don’t put in the effort to fully communicate and build a genuine relationship with women online, they will quickly decide you’re not worth it as a partner.
Mistake #3: Looking only for “model-princess” ladies from Ukraine and Russia
Ah, looks. Are they really all that matters? No, but watching men date online you might think so. Men, particularly online, will tend to analyze women from head to toe. Studying her pictures, trying to determine if she’s good enough.
While it is important that there is some physical attraction, looks are only a small part of what makes a relationship work. Much more important aspects are personality, chemistry, and whether you have fun. So stop analyzing pictures and simply get to know the woman for once.
Mistake #4: Sending uninteresting messages
Okay. Unplanned lines might make you feel good about yourself, but before you send her that message online, at least make sure it’s relevant. Many men will simply churn out some cheesy line or deliver a one-size-fits-all message to the girl’s inbox. We can’t forget the classic autocorrect fails that get many Western men into trouble while communicating with a Ukrainian bride.
Many men write to the woman, “Hello, how are you?” or “You look so hot!”. In my view, these messages are really boring, uninteresting and ineffective. I understand you if you want to keep things as simple as possible but in this case.
Instead, check out her profile and see what she likes, then custom-craft a message just for her. She’ll appreciate the effort and it will make you stand out.
Mistake #5: Waiting too long to ask her for the first meeting in person
Yeah, I know, asking her for the first meeting in person can be scary. But texting or emailing for weeks, months and years before popping the inevitable question just makes you look scared. The woman knows what’s going on. So just ask. If you want to meet your woman in person and build a relationship with her, you should go to Ukraine or Russia to date her there offline!
Mistake #6: Saying only compliments
Agreeing with your woman is a good thing. So are compliments:
But if you’re not sincere, it will come across in your communication. This not only makes you look insecure, but it will also make her see you as manipulative and always trying to please her, thus ensuring the relationship fails.
Mistake #7: Dating the wrong woman because “there’s no one else”
Stop. Just stop. Drop the scarcity mindset and realize that there are billions other women in Ukraine and Russia for you to choose from. That’s plenty of opportunity to find a potential mate. Don’t drag things out with the wrong women just because you feel like you can’t find anyone else. Tell her how you really feel, and then move on. It will be better for both of you in the end.
Mistake #8: Making women think you’re dating exclusively while communicating with other women
There’s a movie out now called The Other Woman (I love Cameron Diaz). It’s about a guy who has multiple mistresses but makes them all believe he’s dating them exclusively. In the end, his mistresses meet up and plot together to take revenge. That may not happen to you, but as soon as the woman you’re dating finds out you’re being dishonest, she’ll ditch you.
Mistake #9: Trying too tough and giving off the drive of nervousness & anxiety
There’s an interesting paradox when it comes to Russian and Ukrainian online dating. The more you feel you need a woman, the harder it often is to get one. This is because you’re acting desperate. Instead, be confident in who you are and be cool when interacting with women you’d like to meet. It will pay off in the end.
So those are some of the top mistakes when it comes to meeting Russian and Ukrainian women.
About the blogger: Krystyna is an International dating blogger, coach and iDate speaker. She is on mission to help Western men to understand foreign women better and how to succeed on the International dating websites.
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