On the weekend, I did some research and found an interesting forum post re what to do and how to react if your Ukrainian mail order bride asks for money.
Here is the story of a Western man:
Why does a Ukrainian woman ask you for money?
This story made me sad. 🙁 The man had his hopes; and now he has only disappointment and doubt… I often get mails from my readers who have experienced the same thing. You meet a special woman online, communicate with her, develop romantic feelings for her, go to Ukraine and date her. And after the first meeting, you get a request to give her some money…
Ukrainian women are some of the most beautiful in the world, and any man who has made the right moves to have one grace them with their company is a lucky man indeed. The question has arisen before when people are looking for Ukrainian dating advice, “Why does a Ukrainian woman ask you for money?“
There might be different reasons
When I read such stories, I am taken a back!!! A Ukrainian woman is a proud woman, with a lineage of hard work ethics behind her. She would never consider just arbitrarily asking for money to be paid to her without a good reason. Anyone who has spent anytime with a beautiful Ukrainian woman would know that her independence would clearly get in the way of a handout.
It is in my opinion that if this happens, she is just testing you. How quickly are you going to dole out money to her or any woman? There is a difference between her begging for money, and you being a mark for a girl looking to make a quick dollar. Be careful, but realize that if she is asking, it is a test of your vulnerability.
There is also the possibility that this is another kind of test. Many women come overseas and when they meet their man, they are immediately put to work. They are sent to work for cleaners, waitressing, or even dancing to make money for their husband. If she immediately asks for money, perhaps she is just making sure that you are stable enough financially to support her. She is going to be a constant companion, but your joint happiness should be important to both of you.
Scammers steal your heart, then money
Lastly, the saddest truth is that you may have been at the end of a scam. She is clearly not in this for the companionship, and you are beyond Ukrainian dating advice, and should be contacting the authorities.
A fiery and powerful Ukrainian woman can be the jewel that sits upon your arm at night and a loving companion at home. If she asks you for money, take a moment before you answer her, make sure you have considered her reasons. In the end it will help both of your longterm happiness.
About the blogger: Krystyna is an International dating blogger, coach and iDate speaker. She is on mission to help Western men to understand foreign women better and how to succeed on the International dating websites.
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