Ukrainian men vs. Western men: from Ukraine women’s view

Dear friends,

There is a lot of discussion on the Internet about the difference between Russian & Ukrainian women and Western women, but there have been fewer conversations and discussions about a Ukrainian woman’s views about the difference between being with a Ukrainian (and also Russian) man and a Western man.

What is the difference between Ukrainian men and Western men?

As we know, the most Western men guess that Ukrainian and Russian men drink too much, do not have the suitable respect for their women. Moreover, it is a known fact that the Ukrainian and Russian men like to have several ladies on the side.

I have my own opinion about Ukrainian and Russian men (I must say honestly it is rather negative). Therefore, I wanted to find out what Ukrainian and Russian women think about their men. I’ve searched on the internet and found some interesting opinions. I wanted to find the anwers to my questions:

Well, I am presenting the two most interesting and detailed opinions about Ukrainian and Russian men (only from a Ukrainian and Russian woman’s point of view :)):

Letter by Tanya

Why I choose a Western man?

From my personal experience, I can say that I agree with the insights of Tanja and Elena.  I was five years with a Russian man together. I made some observations, namely: Russian and Ukrainian men are selfish. Their desires are most important in the world. Moreover, a big drinking problem of the Ukrainian and Russian men is there. And yes, it is true that the Ukrainian and Russian men often have at least one mistress.

I would like to say something in defense of Ukrainian and Russian men. Of course, there are really nice Russian men who love and respect their wives and kids.

But Ukrainian man? No thank you! I can imagine to stay only with a Western man together!

Update 2021: I still have the same opinion like 10 years ago (this article was published in December 2011). I am married to a German man and we have two wonderful sons. I still strongly believe that Western men are a better husband and father material. And I still believe that I cannot have any relationship with a Russian or Ukrainian man.
Krystyna
International dating blogger

About the blogger: Krystyna is an International dating blogger, coach and iDate speaker. She is on mission to help Western men to understand foreign women better and how to succeed on the International dating websites.

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17 thoughts on “Ukrainian men vs. Western men: from Ukraine women’s view”

  1. Krystyna,

    Out of all the articles written, this has the be the best one of ALL time! I’m going to have to go back and re-read this one 5 or 10 times 🙂

    It’s that good. This article hits a major blood vein, in my head and heart, because it’s the exact thing that I spoke about, as a response to one of your other articles, about American women. To make a long story short, what Elena and Tanja has written about Russian/Ukrainian men is the exact thing that I wrote about American females!!! The way Ukrainian men treat and act with Ukrainian women is the way American women treat and act around American men. That’s why there’s a record number of american men NOT dating or marrying american women these days..

    You were correct when you said that you had some good ideas about what to write about when you came from your recent vacation 🙂

    Now…let me go back and re-read this article… 🙂

    Mahalo from hawaii,

    hilton

  2. Well, it’s not true ALL Ukrainian men are bad or something. There’re still many good, reliable and responsible men in Ukraine, as well as lots of Western men who are selfish, shallow and so on.

  3. My husband was Ukrainian and all his friends were from the Ukraine or Russia. He treated me really poorly and his friends sat around and watched without saying a word to him. Then they all ganged up on me from time to time for not being a good enough when all I really was doing was staying at home, cooking, and cleaning. One of his friends even made my husband believe that I was lying about my education background and aspirations. (I was planning on going to law school and his friend who was going to professional school convinced my husband that I was not capable of it.) I eventually left him to start school and within a few months, he had a new girlfriend. I’m not the type to jump from relationship to relationship. I genuinely loved my husband, but unfortunately the fact that he didn’t treat me right and his behavior that was reinforced by his friends prevented us from having a fulfilling relationship. I’m sure not all guys from that area are bad, but this is 5 men I’m talking about here. Not just my husband. They all were divorced or were in relationships with girls they wouldn’t even outwardly call their girlfriends. Strange to me, to be honest.

  4. proud Ukrainian man

    Ukrainian woman? No thank you! I prefer foreign girls, from my side. And a part of Ukrainian men share same preference!

  5. I am in love with a Ukrainain man. But I am not Ukrainian. So I can not see from a Ukrainian girl’s point of view. But surely I want to say about my expreience, which is very good indeed!

    It’s been almost 3 years we are together. The amount of respect I got from my handsome (2 years younger than me) Kievian man, I never got it from anybody else in my 32 years old life. He likes me the way I am, with all my good and bad. The best thing is that he never dominates me, whatever I prefer! Last several months we are far away because of work. But I know that how much faithfil he is to me!

    Bad sides? yes of course, he is not GOD! Very introvert! I have to know everything from his face, he will not say anything! And also he will never say that he misses me! Also till now he did not admit that if he loves me or not, even though I did. I guess he has some commitment issue. He is not ready yet for marriage.

    But really, we are in such healthy relationship, I really don’t care if he is now not ready for commitment. If we go this way, it will come in time I am sure! 🙂

  6. I think you wrote a lot of craps, maybe for a business reason? I am a western woman engaged with an Ukrainian man and I can say he is a real prince, a gentleman, never seen him drunk, never seen him flirting with an other girl. He helps me at home, he is family-oriented (we wait for our own child now). Don’t be so dreaming about western men, my ex was Southern European and he wasn’t that great. Men are men. Ukrainian men are also more good-looking, they have wonderful light-eyes, long legs, soft skin. We will get married next year.

    1. I think the Ukrainian people are highly attractive overall. Good genetics. All I need to to have the funding to travel there and meet a nice attractive lady.

    2. I think the Ukrainian people are highly attractive overall. Good genetics. All I need to do is have the funding to travel there and meet a nice attractive lady.

    3. Seriously? I love those attractive and smart Ukrainian men!! <3 I can't stop thinking of them regardless of their body builds and physiques! They're also a mother-like person just to observe them. Most of all, they're honest and humble… they're not into long talks … especially they have work.. in other words, they are career-driven persons! I hope I could have friends who are Ukrainian men who are gentlemen and attractive.. uhhh smart of course! 🙂

  7. Ruskrainian Kozak

    Well Ukrainian and Russian men either go to prison/police/millitary. Most likely all 3, we dont have other options excluding survival. I think since you crazy *****es think like this, we Slavic men should close off the border from west or we will fucking swipe you off with hand to hand combat. If we dont have anything, we have faith and natural good fight training, so we dont give a fuck we will outlive evreyone or kill the world with us. Kristina, you think your so good that you can create a racial website and Stereotype a country and create more problems for us. your the type of bitch that just needs to be mistreated

  8. The previous guy has a foul mouth and crude manner. He is not what Russian-Ukrainian men are about. Yes these men are very nice and responsible as the women are, just a few are married with having extramarital affairs. I feel that I understand them somewhat. Ukrainian women on the other are respectful and usually the breadwinners of the family. They are like the Rock of Gilbrater in there society and survivalist. They provide for the family, try to improve themselves, while the Ukrainian men have a feeling of hopelessness for a career. All in all, the Ukrainians are “stand up” people. They have had their problems in Ukraine, but times will eventually change. They need a female President to run their country.

  9. Well, I am a guy from New Zealand. Quite old now. 57 😑. I was 29 when I found the truth about masculinity and femininity. It’s a big subject 🙂 . I have a little paradigm about man and woman:- Women are sexually dominant but vulnerable // and emotionally rudimentary but dependant. Men are sexually what women are emotionally I.e. Rudimentary but dependant. Men need a sexual fix whereas women need an emotional fix and they are designed to get their fix from the opposite sex. And men are emotionally what women are sexually , I.e. dominant but vulnerable. Women can repress their sexuality but they must be mated. Men can repress their emotions but they need emotional resolution . The healthy way is for man to have spiritual pre eminance and woman is virtuous and marriage and family provides. the structure that we all need. However, without spiritual enlightenment and empowerment from God, man struggles too much and only faces death. So women need to be loved and mated and a level of provision and protection that goes with their vulnerability. Men need comfort and companionship but mostly they need respect and dignity that comes from the status of being the head of his family which is firstly spirituals and then in terms of provision. That’s where the battle front is. The dignity of man struggles against the glory and competency of women when his pre eminent relationship with God is compromised. The society must have traditional structure with Christ as the example for man otherwise men are left to compeat against women rather than woman being a compliment to him from God.

  10. Some great insights, listen, I was looking for a job in the Ukraine and found these two web sites: Victoria Hearts and Victoria Brides…dating sites. Ukrainian gals looking for that someone special…all ages of women; I checked out how much it cost to send msg and I thought this is pretty expensive; most of the gals all say the same thing in their msg….they all look attractive, but some seem to have a chip on their shoulder as if they work for the site…now when I think of Victoria Hearts and Victoria Brides….who collect thousands of photos of women; it not too far a stretch to imagine a hustle here; the site notifies you that someone is interested, so you bring that up and the gal who says is interested has at least 15 to 20 questions for you too answer; for 50 credits it cost $19.95 and it cost 40 credits to send…we are talking only one msg and it is answering questions from a gal you never heard of…nice photos, but a person could go broke…so, if a good salary of $500 American in the Ukraine ….how can these gals afford paying $20 each time their send a msg or letter….doesn’t make any sense; so I wrote back to an nice 26 year old, very nice gal and asked her to contact the site and get my email address an phone number because I called the site and they told me….”your going to have to pay up to $2,000 before they would release email and phone number; I am not that bright, but this sure sounds like an affiliate program happing here as in dating site, and then move the guy into the chat room, cha ching, cha ching, money runs out, dump him, find someone else…gals gets paid a percentage of what is spent off every msg and if the guy buys flowers, she gets a cut of that too; not all the gals are there in that capacity, but I am sure it exists in the industry because that is what I would do to make a living, better than selling cars and more fun.

  11. This is a great article. As a first-generation American, I still have family in Russia & Ukraine & Finland. It is heartbreaking what the girls and women have had to resort to in some areas just for the hope of better life.

    I would like to caution anyone there who believes American men are the answer… please be very careful. We have many bad men here too. Many older men who will only want a young woman and when she’s had children or over 30, the man no longer cares and will divorce and look for the next young thing. It is part of American culture and happens so often people joke about a girl being a “trophy” bride, only to be left by her husband after the children come or she starts to look a bit older.

    Please be careful & smart. Even here, Prince Charming is hard to come by.

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