Born in Kiev, Ukraine, but raised in the Crimea on the northern coast of the Black Sea, in 2002, I moved to Frankfurt, Germany. In 2010, I earned my Master’s degree in Turkish, English and Italian Studies at the Goethe Univerisity of Frankfurt on the Main.
Also in 2010 I started dating a German guy who became my husband 2 years later. I was confused by intercultural differences so I decided to start put my thoughts and ideas about International dating and relationship together.
Thank you for taking the time to write this information. I am going to Odessa in late March on a romance tour, but I have found myself being vet interested in a girl from another site. We have exchanged 10+ emails and I have even sent her a gift to show my intentions are real. We have only been communicating a month and I told her I mentioned her to my family and friends. I was a bit disappointed when she said she had not saying it was a bit early still, however she did mention she may tell her mother. I sent one more new years gift with flowers. My question is, how long should I wait before she is willing to tell others about me if she is serious in moving to the USA with me and marry me. Also, how often should I email to show interest, but not to overwhelm here. She is very receptive and we have averaged one email per 3 days. That includes to and from…thanks for your advice Krystyna.
Greg
Greg. Please don’t take this as a judgement or an insult. You should not be asking one human being when another will be ready to be intimate enough to share her one month communication with her family. Even if this woman lived in the same city as you, it would completely and solely depend on her comfort level and her opinion that she still building about you. Take your time to get to know her for who she is as woman before trying to fast track to the honeymoon. It makes you look like someone that is looking for a position to fill for your needs. I’m not on this site to find anyone, I just happened to stumble across this website and out of curiosity came across your post. I’m honestly not trying to come off as a judgmental ass, but everything about your post made me kinda sad for the present condition of the human race for a brief moment. Other than that, good luck with your search.
Hi Greg,
I can understand you very well – you like her, want to develop your relationship quickly and make plans about your future together. That’s all ok!
BUT….
Ukrainian women like it slow. We are careful! Above all, you are from America. This is very far from the Ukraine, she is scared because the girl knows that she has no friends there. Of course, the girl will tell her family and friends about you, that she met a wonderful man from abroad (but only if she is ready for that). Is she probably still very young and her mother still plays a very important role in her life?
I would advise you to be patient. You should just develop your relationship slowly and learn to understand each other. One month is very little time.
Patience is very important! 🙂
Krystyna 🙂
Thank you for your comments, I really appreciate them.
Krystyna, I understand I need to slow down. I do have a tendency to move faster than most being 36 and feeling like I know what I’m looking for. I shouldn’t assume anything out of my counterpart and I need to be patient.
I’m sorry “curious” that this would make you feel sad about the current state of the human race. I am just one individual and I appreciate your input as well. Good luck to all searching for their counterpart, it has been a challenging journey for me so far, but one that I will not give up. I will continue learning until I find someone who accepts me and I accept them.
Dear Krystyna,
I just love to read new topics from you blog 🙂
Thank you very much for your great help! I love your free piece of advice. And Ukrainian women are the most beautiful in the world! 🙂
Hi Krystyna,
The way you write, you are really a professional blogger.
Thank you for your job! 🙂
Great information about you and nice discussion among the comments.
I like it! 🙂
Hi Krystyna
I just got back from my first trip to the Ukraine…yes, I say my first trip because I promise I will go again some time, hopefully sooner than later.
Anyways, I’d love to help some guys that are planning on using one of the tour companies; Anastasiadate.com or loveme.com. I come back single as when I left, but I had some great experiences and I have some great photos and a couple of girls personal emails and phone numbers to see if anything can happen between us. My first suggestion before anything else is to take the paid emails with a “grain of salt”, some girls email you or some just have their translator email you. I found out after spending more money than I initially wanted to, but still less than many of the other men on my trip. After meeting 2 girls on my first 2 days and having to pay translator fees of $15/hour, I quickly realized I couldn’t afford to meet women who couldn’t speak some English or at least feel comfortable enough to leave their translators to be with me. It’s a double edged sword because the women are actually recruited by local agencies and then Anastasia contacts their agency to set up a potential date. So, the women are either intimidated by their agency to ensure that they use their translator or unfortunately some girls are in business to pretend they don’t know English to make money(two girls I saw with other men, pretended to not know English, then I saw them each act as a translator for the other). Another trick I saw happen to some men was if they wanted to bring in a girl from out of town, example Nikoaev to Odessa. My friend paid for a one day apartment for the girl and her translator, paid for the taxi drive and worked it out where he wouldn’t have to pay the translator all night because we were going to Club Itaka(too loud to talk anyways). However, he found out the girls took the bus and then on the way to the club the translator argued with my friend and insisted he pay her all night. he ended up doing it, just be careful what you are willing to do. However, Not all girls are in it to make money, there are really some very nice women in the Ukraine. They are really looking for the the same there just as women from anywhere else in the world, they want to get to know you and you shouldn’t expect a kiss or even a hug until a few dates (as I found out, which was fine with me). One girl, I did spend 6 or 7 dates with never asked me for taxi money, translator fees or to take her shopping, or to go to nice restaurants. She is a wonderful girl and I hope she keeps in touch with me. I did surprise her and took her shopping on our last day for new shoes and some clothes and a nice dinner. It felt like a real date and at least a week long relationship. My best advice is to go in with low expectations and to hope for the best… One man on my trip was back on his second trip to take care of the Fiance Visa, receipts and pictures…A side note, They never left their hotel room. So as you can see, there are happy endings in life and the Ukraine after all. Good luck all.
Greg