Dating someone locally isn’t your only option anymore. Plus, it may not be the best option if there isn’t a lot or great talent to choose from.
With international online dating, matchmaking services, and singles tours (or romance tours), you can find the woman of your dreams – in another country!
There are many benefits to dating internationally, and the main advantage is that you have a huge dating pool at the tip of your fingers. Simply browse or swipe, and start connecting if you’re on an international dating service.
So what are you waiting for?
Oh right! Information about dating someone who lives in another country. Well, here’s everything you’d like to know!
Reasons Why You Can Trust Krystyna
- Faithfully reviewed over 500 International online dating and matchmaking services
- She has been testing online dating services for over 10 years.
- Top Coach at the CoachFoundation.com
- Author of dating ebooks, including ‘International Dating Digest For Men: Finding Love Overseas’.
- Krystyna answers dating and relationship questions on Quora.com
How to Date a Woman Who Lives in Another Country: Main Tips
Dating is dating, but remember that every lady is different, no matter where she’s from.
So here’s my top tips for how to date a lady who lives elsewhere:
How to Choose a Reputable Site
You want quality when you date internationally, and that only happens when you choose a reputable and legitimate International dating site or app.
There are thousands of scam online dating operators, so I always advise my clients to never just click on the first dating service that comes up on Google (or their search engine of choice). You need to know what you are letting yourself in for.
But how?
- By checking out independent third party reviews on Trustpilot and Sitejabber to see what previous users say (but always take these with a grain of salt)
- By reading in-depth reviews of the dating sites that cover what dating nice the site is, what services you can expect, how much money it’ll set you back, and more
- By checking out the actual site - NOT registering - just looking through the site to see if it’s a good match
In essence, a reputable online dating site should be:
- Legitimate, and not a fly-by-night online dating company out for blood (I mean your money and reputation)
- Affordable because you shouldn’t have to sell your kidneys and heart for the love of your life
- Safe and secure; romance scammers are real and it’s too easy to fall victim to these master manipulators
- Usable because you shouldn’t need a Master’s degree in tech to figure out how to use the dating app or website
- There to help you find your woman with plenty of basic and unique services so you can chat, video date, send gifts, and more.
Your Profile: Our Top Hacks for Dating Success
You won’t be able to find your dream lady if your profile stinks.
Your online dating profile is the first impression you make on a girl, so here’s what you gotta do:
- Put in the time and effort to create a proper and honest dating profile
- Carefully select your main profile photo - abs and nakedness aren’t turn ons (even if you think they are)
- Use your profile photos to tell a story and show your interests
- Showcase your strengths but don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and real
- Be specific in the info you share and don’t go off into tangents
- Use humor, but tastefully and sparingly
- Create engagement and intrigue
- Include what you are looking for in your ideal woman, but don’t be derogatory, don’t give in to generalizations or stereotypes, and don’t come across as a class A jerk
- Show that you are emotionally available
Your First Message
Your first message is another element that could be a deal sealer or a dealbreaker.
Your first message shouldn’t be a generic “Hi, how are you?” Remember, the ladies get a lot of interest since there’s usually more men on dating sites than there are women looking for love.
So your first message should make a statement in the best way possible.
Carefully look at the lady’s profile to see what clues she’s revealed about herself and her hobbies, and use that to craft your first message. After all, you want to find common ground, which makes impressing and connecting with her easier.
So if your lady is into hiking, and you are too, an example first message could be something like:
“I’ve always wanted to hike the Appalachian trail and the Inca trail. There’s so much mystery surrounding the Incas, and to walk in their footsteps to Machu Picchu would be an honor (and dream come true). Where have you always wanted to go hiking, and why?”
This message is short and sweet. It says something about who you are and what you are interested in, and it tells the lady that you’ve put in effort to make a connection.
Intimacy
When you date someone, you need to start building intimacy (and no, I don’t mean the bedroom kind unless you are on a site where hookup culture is the norm).
Depending on the nationality of your dream woman, it’s likely that she comes from a traditional society where PDA and sex before marriage isn’t the norm. Of course, you shouldn’t assume, but don’t ask these types of personal questions out of the blue – unless you are on AdultFriendFinder or something.
But back to intimacy.
You also want to focus on building emotional, intellectual, spiritual, experiential, creative, and social intimacy to get to know the lady you are into. Foster the different types of intimacy by asking questions, going on virtual dates, and getting to know each other.
Start with friendship, and let the romance happen organically.
Travel to Each Other
You’ll need to meet face to face at some point, and when you are both ready, you’ll need to book your tickets to go visit the lady of your dreams.
Traveling isn’t cheap, and you’ll need to take time off work to spend with your lady love, so be sure she’s “the one” before you hop on a plane.
Dating With Foreign Match: What Else to Consider
There are a few others think you should keep in mind when you date a foreign woman:
- Her culture and customs may be strange, but you need to learn about them and accept them if you want to make her your wife.
- Every country has its own dating culture you should learn about, but never assume. If you aren’t sure, ask your lady love what she prefers and what she’s into.
- Don’t discriminate.
- Don’t use industry jargon and fancy English when you can use everyday conversation language.
- Your lady love may not speak English at all or she may be a foreign language speaker of English, so be prepared that misunderstandings may arise.
- Keep an open mind.
- Always be respectful of your date and especially when you meet her family and friends.
- You need to be patient as you may not find your true love on the first dating site you register on.
Benefits of Dating a Person From Another Country
The benefits of dating a foreigner are:
- You’ll get to travel to a foreign country to meet your romantic partner.
- You’ll be exposed to interesting cuisine, art, culture, and history that broadens your horizons.
- You’ll get new opportunities you may not have when dating someone local.
- You’ll make new friends, even if a romantic relationship doesn’t work out with every lady you meet and chat with.
- You can learn a new language.
- You have a lot more options to find the dating partner that’s right for you.
Our Main Advice: Learn More About Partner
It’s easy to read dating guides and bride guides and think you know exactly who the woman you are dating based on generalizations and stereotypes about her country, culture, and traditions.
Unfortunately, if you don’t dive deeper and learn about your romantic partner from her, you’ll be in hot waters and possibly the dog house.
So my best piece of advice when you date someone from another country is to really get to know them and put aside all your presumptions and assumptions (which only makes an ass out of you).
Just as you are unique and not a cookie-cutter of your next-door neighbor, so too is your soulmate.
Final Words
You can find true love anywhere, and if you haven’t met “the one” yet in the city you live, consider finding a foreign girlfriend.
The dating pool is a lot bigger when you look globally for love, but you’ve got to be smart when you use online dating sites.
Ready to find the love of your life?
Check out these guides:
- The 5 best online dating sites so you can start on your journey for love
- International Dating Digest for Men (my free ebook) to learn more about international online dating
- Ukrainian and Russian dating scams so you can beware and take care
Meet Krystyna, an esteemed international dating expert, blogger, and the founder of Ukrainian Dating Blog. With over 1000 articles published in English and German, she specializes in cross-cultural relationships, prevalent dating topics, and tackling romance scams.
