Dear friends,
On the weekend, I did some research and found an interesting forum post re what to do and how to react if your Ukrainian mail order bride asks for money.
Here is the story of a Western man:
Why does a Ukrainian woman ask you for money?
This story made me sad. 🙁 The man had his hopes; and now he has only disappointment and doubt… I often get mails from my readers who have experienced the same thing. You meet a special woman online, communicate with her, develop romantic feelings for her, go to Ukraine and date her. And after the first meeting, you get a request to give her some money…
Ukrainian women are some of the most beautiful in the world, and any man who has made the right moves to have one grace them with their company is a lucky man indeed. The question has arisen before when people are looking for Ukrainian dating advice, “Why does a Ukrainian woman ask you for money?“
There might be different reasons
When I read such stories, I am taken a back!!! A Ukrainian woman is a proud woman, with a lineage of hard work ethics behind her. She would never consider just arbitrarily asking for money to be paid to her without a good reason. Anyone who has spent anytime with a beautiful Ukrainian woman would know that her independence would clearly get in the way of a handout.
It is in my opinion that if this happens, she is just testing you. How quickly are you going to dole out money to her or any woman? There is a difference between her begging for money, and you being a mark for a girl looking to make a quick dollar. Be careful, but realize that if she is asking, it is a test of your vulnerability.
There is also the possibility that this is another kind of test. Many women come overseas and when they meet their man, they are immediately put to work. They are sent to work for cleaners, waitressing, or even dancing to make money for their husband. If she immediately asks for money, perhaps she is just making sure that you are stable enough financially to support her. She is going to be a constant companion, but your joint happiness should be important to both of you.
Scammers steal your heart, then money
Lastly, the saddest truth is that you may have been at the end of a scam. She is clearly not in this for the companionship, and you are beyond Ukrainian dating advice, and should be contacting the authorities.
A fiery and powerful Ukrainian woman can be the jewel that sits upon your arm at night and a loving companion at home. If she asks you for money, take a moment before you answer her, make sure you have considered her reasons. In the end it will help both of your longterm happiness.
Last Updated on June 08, 2023
Meet Krystyna, an esteemed international dating expert, blogger, and the founder of Ukrainian Dating Blog. With over 1000 articles published in English and German, she specializes in cross-cultural relationships, prevalent dating topics, and tackling romance scams.
Nice text as many others but would like to disagree with you. Reason is that know personally womans from Ukraine and also correspondent with many of them. Those who ask for money, make some false reason for that. And they think that we are stupid and do not realize they lie to us. Simply, they lack respect for us. I told many of them that they need to learn about us foreigners, if they want us for husband or boyfriend (as well they will live in our country). There is only one faithful who open say that she would like to have support from me. I know her personally, know situation and was not my problem to cover her bills as well some things for her kid.
Keep on good work and wish you many more nice articles.
I disagree with you (respectfully) that Ukrainian women are proud and hard working. I’ve met plenty of Ukrainian women looking for a sponsor, I dated several of them who flat out told me that as a husband I will be working and their job is just to look pretty. My wife now is from Kiev, and had a successful business there. As much as I love her that lady bleeds me dry and I make around $100K a year. Now I knew what I was getting into, and everyone is different, but a lot of women do see foreigners as a piggy bank. When I would travel to Ukraine and go out I would hear women openly talk about ripping me off at clubs, they didn’t know I spoke Russian right off the bat. Again, everyone is different, but I can confidently say that Ukrainian women want a man to support them, they aren’t huge on working, and many of them, such as in my case, become blind with capitalist rage when they move. Деньги действительно глаза слепят, это 100 пудов.
I’m afraid I have to agree with llya. I am from Chicago and work and live in Kiev at the moment. I’ve been back and forth in Kiev for about 7 years now and have dated many women. Women here DO want a man to support them. However, I do not see anything wrong with this. It is no different than woman in the US only US women are much more subtle. Every woman no matter where they are from wants to know there husband will be able to support and provide for them.
Take for example, your beloved picks up, leaves everything she knows and loves, family, friends, job and moves to America to be with her man, you better believe she would want to know you can support her when she gets there. I believe this is the main reason why the man’s finacial sitution is addressed quicker than our US women. They need to know and there isn’t a lot of time for formalities especially if the man is only visiting. I also feel llya is in a unquie situation with his wife.
I am sure she is a beautiful and woderful woman but the women here in Kiev that bleed men dry are few and far between. I see it like this, if you go out to one of the popular clubs, Sky etc. and you see a beautiful woman, maybe a lot of plastic where you can’t tell if she’s “working” of just looking for a man, then you must approach her knowing full well what she is after. If you can afford to support such a woman, then more power to you both. If not, then steer clear of these types of women.
Trust me, there are tons of beautiful women here in Ukraine that are just as beautiful, only the club women are made up for the night. I think our natural instinct when western men come to Kiev or Ukraine for the first time and head straight for the clubs to find someone beautiful, and that is fine but you should know what you are getting , the same type of women that go to large clubs. It is better to spend time in Kiev or Ukraine, spend time at Kafes and smaller dance clubs, there are plenty.
In my experience, dating sites are good and bad. It is up to you to do your due diligence. I would recommend not even thinking about talking to any woman unless you are financially ready to visit in person several times a year, at least four. Like llya I made 6 figures and could afford to travel. Dating sites can be a good start, I did it for years but . I know all the scams and ginuine woman and can tell the difference. Kystanya is right, Anastasia does hire locals to respond to men.
The parent Ameican based company has local offices around the world, Asia date, Colombia date etc. They claim that they tell there managers of those local branches not to solicit men by this means but it brings in the company money so there are no repercussions for violations. Rosebrides and other smaller site I have found to be less filled with scammers, but again, scammers exist on all sites. Instead sign up for VK and start networking there.Basicaly Russia and Slovik’s Facebook, although in recent months access has been sporadically restricted by Russia to Ukraine because of the conflict in Luhansk and Donesk. But when it is available its the safest way to start communicating. Save your membership fees.
If you’re wondering how I know all this its because I had an international dating site, I bought profiles, I didn’t care if they were real of fake just as long as had plenty women to attract men to my site and start paying. But now I am happily married to a beautiful Russian woman and had to give up the site. We live in Kiev until we will move back to the US. SO,
1.save your money, use social media,
2.do not rule her out if she ask for money,
3.do not give any money until you actually meet ( she may be ginuine and need help, your decision)
4. dont even start looking for love anywhere overseas unless you can afford constant visits
Finally the biggest misconception I noticed while I had my dating site, fellas, if you are looking for a subservient woman, Slovik women are not for you.. maybe Philippines or Thailand. Ukraine and Russian love to take care of the home, they LOVE it, but this in no way means they take crap from any man.. Please, These women are smart as they are beautiful but diffentley not a submissive.
I had hundreds of men that had the idea that all women outside the US could be controled. Its 2017, I dont think you will find anyone that will suite your needs, if this is you. If you’re a control freak, well first you should shoot yourself but other than that I guess you can go to Asia or something but diffently not any of the Slovik countires are for you.
my two cents